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    How do you convert spouse

    Merry Christmas to one and all

    How do most of you convert your anti gun spouse

    I have been married now for over 6 years

    My wife knew from the jump that guns came with the package

    meaning me she was not thrilled with the idea but went with

    a dont ask dont tell deal . This year I got my carry

    I am in retial management over 30 years walking out nightly

    with deposit she is starting to see the light being that a co

    worker in another town got robbed and shot this month

    with deposit . She is not real keen with me carry with her

    when we are in public she still has some of those anti gun

    views any help from board would help Thanks

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    She has to get over her FEAR! Fear is what drives the anti-gunners. Have her watch the series "I Survived" I Survived - Biography.com
    Often people recount how having a gun or actually using a gun saved thier lives. Point out moments in the story when "Ya know if he or she or they would have only had a gun with them". Try to make her understand that there won't be many stories like that becasue well prepared armed people are so much more likely to AVOID these kind of scenarios than the Sheeple.

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    If at possible just holster up when the wife is out of the room. I carry IWB and prefer my wife is not aware that I am armed. She may lean a little towards anti-carry, but she is by no means anti-gun. When the SHTF I don't want her screaming honey where's your gun and blowing any tactical advantage I might have had. If things go bad and your not armed your wife will probably cuss you for years.

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    Took my next step on the conversion this morning. One of her (insert appropriate celebration of your deity of choice here) presents was an airsoft Walther P99 kit. Keep in mind I made up for this "typical man" type present with other various frilly and girly things. When I explained we could set up a target in the hallway and stay nice and warm inside I got a very favorable, "Hmmm, that might actually be fun."

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    Have you pointed her to Pax's "Cornered Cat" site yet? There were a lot of articles written from a different perspective, that my wife read.
    My wife was never an 'anti', just never thought that a weapon at hand was necessary. The world changes and so do views.

    We went to the range together. Shooting was sport. Later, I bought her own low recoil Walther P22 when she had trouble shooting my 92FS...then her own S&W model 60, now she has her CCW and packs a PPS. Dragging anyone into something is usually more difficult than leading one step then another. It sounds like your wife is waking to the hazards of the world already and that awareness may the first steps.

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    That's exactly what I do - the wife never sees my firearm.

    My wife also knows that guns came with the marriage package. The less anyone knows one is CCW the better.

    Early on my wife was a nag about seeing me open the safe and placing my trusty firearm on my person. She knows I carry but she just will never see it.

    I was successful in convincing my wife to carry pepper spray. For the moment I cannot convince her to obtain a firearm. And I am not too optimisitc that she will change her mind. I am trying to explain how home invasions occur and how there are plenty of BG out in the world.

    Merry Christmas my friends!

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    I disagree with the above poster. I am of the opinion that a spouse needs to know that you carry. She needs to know what you carry and how you carry.

    You two are a TEAM. She is not and should not be treated as a weak frail little woman who should be scared of guns and needs to be protected even from the ugly side of life. She's quite capable of handling the fact that her husband has taken the initiative to carry a weapon to protect his and HER lives. In fact, she should be encouraged to do the same so that both members of the team are equally as capable of defending the other.

    Have her talk to Limatunes on here. Have her watch her videos on line. Have her look at a really read the cornered cat web site. Stop acting like the fact that you carry is something to be hidden from her and start treating her like an intelligent and capable woman and your whole marriage will be better for it.
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    Ahem, have you tried taking her shooting at the local range? Start her off with a small caliber.......like say a .32acp or .380acp. Even a .22 would be a great starter pistol. Be sure to explain how the gun functions and safety BEFORE getting to the range. Maybe even have her dry-fire a few times too.

    It worked for me...........now my bride of 23 years carries daily. Btw, she packs a S&W 637 .38 snubbie.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TN_Mike View Post
    I disagree with the above poster. I am of the opinion that a spouse needs to know that you carry. She needs to know what you carry and how you carry.

    You two are a TEAM. She is not and should not be treated as a weak frail little woman who should be scared of guns and needs to be protected even from the ugly side of life. She's quite capable of handling the fact that her husband has taken the initiative to carry a weapon to protect his and HER lives. In fact, she should be encouraged to do the same so that both members of the team are equally as capable of defending the other.

    Have her talk to Limatunes on here. Have her watch her videos on line. Have her look at a really read the cornered cat web site. Stop acting like the fact that you carry is something to be hidden from her and start treating her like an intelligent and capable woman and your whole marriage will be better for it.
    Well said Mike!
    Self defense should be a team effort even if your partner doesn't carry. Her part comes in my learning to move to a position of cover and not give away any secrets about your tactical advantage, at the very least.
    She should be armed with a cell-phone as well, and be prepared to make the 911 call when the time is right. Be sure she knows the proper protocall for her "job".
    My husband carries as well and we have worked out what to do if we are ever in a situation that we would need to draw.
    Even my daughter has been taught what she should do if a situation ever arose.
    For us, it is a family team that works together and has the best chance of going home each day.
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    Take her to the range and let her shoot all your guns.. It worked for me and now the has her carry license and never walks out the door without her Ruger LCP. And she was anti gun.
    34 hand guns and still going.....

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    Merry Christmas to all ! My wife is my partner we discussed getting our concealed handgun permit right after 9/11/01.So we did our classes and
    got our permits and next year will be our 3ard renewal.Time flies when you are having fun.t's none of my business but if your hiding stuff like this from your wife what else are you hiding.You are two people and disagreements do come
    up an should be discussed and settled like adults.I wish you all the luck in the world.

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    I have no idea what might convert her but I am positive that you'll get no where trying to force it down her throat.

    My wife was converted when she ran into a road rage situation that made her realize just how defensless she was. she now carries everywhere

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    I am goung to talk to my wife and have an open discussion on this issue.

    The "team effort" makes a lot of sense. I am going to have her watch the videos recommended by previous posters.

    Please privide more video links that can bolster my case.

    I have a new project at hand.

    Thank you for the advice.

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    Update: Sigh.....airsoft P99 has a pretty stiff slide. She isn't really strong enough to rack it. She was struggling and wound up pinching the palm of her hand and bleeding a little. I probably should have gone the CO2 route.

    Still though, she's been having fun shooting it with me cocking it for her. I was able to get her to try cocking my G27 to compare the spring strength. That's a pretty huge step forward for someone who was dead set anti-gun "no way in hell" 3 years ago.

    Definitely lets me know that when the time comes, she's probably going to be a revolver person with such little hand strength.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Biomortis View Post
    Took my next step on the conversion this morning. One of her (insert appropriate celebration of your deity of choice here) presents was an airsoft Walther P99 kit. Keep in mind I made up for this "typical man" type present with other various frilly and girly things. When I explained we could set up a target in the hallway and stay nice and warm inside I got a very favorable, "Hmmm, that might actually be fun."

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    Good idea , this was my response, get them to shoot.
    If you can get a niece ,nephew , another GIRL to shoot with them,in front of her, this calms their fears somewhat and they start thinking ,hey if that little kid/or girl can do this, maybe so can I.


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