From a Woman’s Perspective

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    From a Woman’s Perspective

    by Melissa Allison, Director KC3

    I will admit it right from the start; I am a new gun owner. Less than a year ago I would have been more likely to be a member of the Million Mom March than a board member of the Kentucky Coalition to Carry Concealed. However, as the saying goes, "Times change" and so have my views of guns and gun ownership. I now understand the value of protecting the right to carry concealed weapons. My change of heart resulted in shooting IDPA, joining KC3, and becoming a member of the board of directors. As a member, I have taken the task of writing a column for the newsletter that specifically addresses the needs of women as they relate to concealed carry and gun ownership. In future issues I would like to address various topics of interest to women; however, for this issue I thought it would be appropriate to simply introduce myself and chronicle my journey into the realm of concealed carry.

    Ironically enough my first real exposure to guns occurred in California, that state which is rapidly limiting access to handguns. I never had any real interest in guns and certainly never saw the need to own one for myself, but one day my husband suggested that we take a gun safety course together at the local range. (Allow me to interject at this point that my husband is the sole reason that I became interested in guns, so men, listen up…if you are having a hard time convincing your significant other to give guns a chance, continue reading; I am going to give you some tips for softening her resistance). Of course my husband’s suggestion met with my "misunderstanding" of guns; after all, I am a nurse. I gave the normal response: "Guns are dangerous" to which my husband responded, "That’s why we are taking a gun safety course." Wanting something that my husband and I could do together, I gave in to his petition and signed up for the two-hour class.

    As the day of our class approached I became more and more nervous. I did not tell any of my friends for fear that they would laugh at me and ask when I was going to join the militia. I thought guns were for rednecks and hunters; certainly no respected citizen would carry one. I was soon to find out that I was wrong. Our class, containing a mom and her son, some computer engineers, as well as my husband and me, was held at the local indoor range. Now you must understand that this was the first time I had ever set foot inside a gun range and the first time I had ever seen a gun fired in real life. I was scared to death after seeing some of the guns people were firing; I told my husband that I did not want a gun that shot fire. He laughed. The class turned out to be just the thing for someone like me; we did not even touch a gun for an hour. We learned the different parts of a gun and how they worked, but more importantly we learned how to handle a gun safely. After safety lessons, it was time to shoot. The instructor gave us both a .22 pistol and a .22 revolver. That was perfect! Men, let me say that if you are trying to get your significant other to be interested in guns do not start them out shooting your .45 or Desert Eagle. Women, in general, are not impressed with the power of guns; they want something they are comfortable shooting. I was comfortable shooting the .22 pistol (It didn’t shoot fire…hehe). The class hooked me. I liked the adrenaline rush that shooting gave me as well as the competitive aspect of trying to shoot that little ‘X’ in the middle of the target.

    Before moving to Kentucky, we visited that range several more times; I felt comfortable there. The minute you walked in the door of the range someone asked if you were carrying a gun, and if you were, you had to show it to him. Men, if you are trying to convince your significant other that shooting is safe, do not take them to a range where people are consistently breaking safe handling rules. The other nice thing about that range was that you could rent guns from them. This gave me the opportunity to try out different guns and decide for myself which one I liked. My husband never pushed a certain gun on me; he encouraged me to find something that fit me. Another lesson to learn, men, do not assume that your significant other will like the gun you like, that a Glock is the best pistol for beginners (I hate them), or that women prefer a revolver. These are all sentiments that I encountered, and none of them proved true for me, except that my husband and I both like our Sig P225.

    Once my husband and I moved to Kentucky, we got in contact with Charles Riggs who introduced us to the idea of concealed carry. I had never considered this as a possibility; I thought it was unnecessary and dangerous. However, I paid attention to the statistics that my husband placed before me; he never tried to sway my opinion, only presented me with the facts allowing me to make my own informed decision. Once again, men, women are not stupid; give them the appropriate information and they will more than likely arrive at the right conclusion. Statistics did not fail in my case, and I soon realized the value of carrying a concealed weapon to protect myself. I claimed the phrase I saw on a girl’s t-shirt: "I refuse to be a victim." That is where I am today, a female member of KC3 fighting for my right not to be a victim, and that is why I have decided to write this column. I want to help other women understand that guns are not what the media makes them out to be; that in the hands of responsible citizens, they are a valid means of self-defense. I also want to address the needs that women face when considering concealed carry. So watch your newsletter in the future for tips and advice, and hopefully we will all learn something together.

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    a wonderful write up.
    I especially enjoyed the part of what guys expect girls to want .
    The start with a .22 is right on.
    My anology has always been shoes. Would a guy buy shoes for his girl? Not in a million years.
    I taught my daughtetr to shoot starting her at 10. By 15 she was good and starting to get guys at the range to let her shoot everything there. I figured she would wind up with a .38 since she's a tiny girl. Oh no. she got her hands on a 1911. The look on her face was priceless.
    Now it's fun to go pocketbook shopping with her. "Daddy my gun won't fit in that." The look on salesgirls faces is incredible.
    I love a girl with a gun, she can protect me.

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    Randy - excellent piece - written by a very level-headed lady who sees things with logic and perspective.

    Wonder if she'd talk some sense into Brady or Feinstein?

    Nah - not a chance with those two!
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    Quote Originally Posted by P95Carry
    Randy - excellent piece - written by a very level-headed lady who sees things with logic and perspective.

    Wonder if she'd talk some sense into Brady or Feinstein?

    Nah - not a chance with those two!
    Nope, I really doubt she would even try....
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    The above is an excellant article. Things like this are great for our "sport". So many women, and even men, feel that shooting(combat or target),and CC is for the macho wanna be's. If the men can bring women into our sport thats great. If women can bring other women into our way of thinking then that is extremely helpful to all of us. This is the same for hunting. I love to see a new female hunter. "You go girl" --------

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    It's really the same for men and women, but very refreshing to hear of a woman who accepts and takes responsibility for her on safety.

    I did it! I did it! A short post!

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    I did it! I did it! A short post!
    It'll never last
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    That was a great writeup.

    My wife did the same thing earlier this year The class choices for shooting were either 9mm autos or a .38 wheel gun. The wife surprised me liking the wheel gun with the 6" barrel!

    Women, you just never know! :outtahere
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hoosier
    I just took my daughter shooting for her first time shooting pistols. We started on the .22, and then went to 9 mm and .38. She has a dead eye! And she loved it!
    bought my little girl a SW 649 for her 21st birthday, she then went and earnd her CCW and has bought several more guns for her self. All the kids are pro gunners and love to shoot, as dose the wife who has her own CCW and mutiple guns, did I say that they are all life NRA, I'm so happy!!!
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    Sheldon - wish that your family was mirrored everywhere.

    Great to hear that
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    I really enjoyed the post. It's great to hear how someones perception changes. I've never met anyone who didn't like to shoot once they tried it. I was fortunate. My wife grew up on a farm here in Florida and was very comfortable with guns. She has her CCW and took the class with me.

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    When I think of it that way, it makes perfect sense. We must keep our bias for guns and ammo out of the picture, and just present the facts in a clear, non-patronizing way. After all what did you start with? How many changes did you make with caliber or handgun? When a woman decides these things on her own terms, she deserves all the support and respect we can offer. I wish we could post this on every editorial page in the country.

    Feinstein already has her CCW. Wonder what she carries?
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    Great article!

    Quote Originally Posted by gunthorp
    Feinstein already has her CCW. Wonder what she carries?
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    Very good article! I like the "transition" stories.

    Men, let me say that if you are trying to get your significant other to be interested in guns do not start them out shooting your .45 or Desert Eagle.
    I don't go to public ranges much, but one time I did I saw a sight that made me cringe. A few booths down was a dad showing his teenage daughter "how to shoot." "Learning" consisted of dad handing over a 1911 with no instruction other than "point there and squeeze the trigger" while the daughter, obviously intimidated, handled the gun like it was a dead rat. The dad stood behind her and had a few laughs as the gun jumped in her hands and she nearly dropped it in fright.

    It may have been amusing for the dad, but I think he just created an anti-gunner. Thanks much.
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