This is a discussion on Help me get my wife to the range... within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by MadMac Her current impression is that the range is a noisy, unsupervised zoo full of wackos and discourteous cretins. She feels more ...
I have always wanted my wife to come to the range with me at least for the company.
Yes,married 28 years, and still like her company!!!!!
I finally got her to take the NRA Basic Pistol course at the gun club I belong to.
She actually admitted she liked it!!!!!
While she is not ready to get her CWP and start carrying, it's still a start.
My secret to getting her to go in the first place?........BRIBERY:
" Keep On Packin' On The Bimah"
Well since her father is very pro gun, point out that she has always respected her father. He's a smart responsible person. If he (a man) understands the need to be able to defend himself in Arizona it makes sense that she should be ready to defend herself where you live.
You could try bribery. You'll go to that opera (or whatever) she want's to see, if she'll go to the range with you. You may never convince her, but it's worth the try.
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Two things that might help:
1) sign her up for a class - without you. I agree with the person up above that the NRA basic pistol class or a basic handgun safety class can get somebody really interested. Call it a SAFETY/FAMILARIZATION CLASS.
2) make a trade. SURELY there is something she wants you to do that you are resisting. (how about an opera, that new fondue and white wine restaurant, dress up in a tux for something, etc etc.)
1. Don't "make" her do anything, if she wants no part of it, well then she won't be forced into it.
2. Make it fun for both of you
3. Start her off on .22's please...NO .38s or .380s
4. If she does decide to try it, get her formal training right off the bat
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IF you can get your wife to shoot in the 1st place, definitely do not take her to a typical indoor range: as the post above intimates, you will turn her off guns forever. Indoor ranges are, even in my mind, dangerous and extremely noisy areas. NOT FUN.
Instead, I shoot at a members-only outdoor range ($25/year, but that's Mississippi!!). It ain't noisy 'cause it's large and out-of-doors, and they don't accept cretins as members either; and safety -- and 100% politeness -- are the unbreakable rules. It is FUN to shoot there (when it's not raining, however!!), even for my wife.
And, as I'm sure you already know, and many others have probably already pointed out, to start her out with a .22LR (if you can get her to the range in the first place; wish I could be of more help in that direction...).
OK, I wasn't going to say it, but I guess it needs to be said. The last indoor range she visited (the guy with the elephant gun) is the official NRA range at NRA headquarters...
Sadly, it's as cold as a witch's elbow in NoVA these days with 8' plowed snow drifts. Outdoors would be great, but it's not a good option here.
Also, she's abandoned her Ruger .22 as a jam-o-matic. She much prefers her flawless 9mm Kimber Aegis or her Ladysmith .38. Her groups with the Kimber are tighter than mine!
If you have friends who go to the range with their wives, it might help to make a day of that. There are women who prefer to go when other women are around.
As others have said, offering a trade might work. I'll try ____ if you'll try the range. If nothing else, at least she won't be able to bother you about ____ anymore.
Some range class/activity that's for women only — no hovering husbands. A lot of women don't want to be taught to do something by their husbands, and they don't like to feel like they are the only one in the place who doesn't know what's going on. A women's class/day will put her in a situation with others who are sharing her experience.
If none of that works, you'll probably be better off leaving the matter alone.
"An armed society is a polite society." -- Robert A. Heinlein
And if your wife can take the recoil of her .38 Ladysmith (especially if it's the alloy version; brutal!), then she is good to go with almost anything!
I also have a Ruger Mark III Hunter with all top-o-the-line features. Would love to trade it for a G19.
I can get my wife to the range anytime I want. Just schedule the range time an hour before I schedule her a massage.
Here's what I did and something worked in my situation because my wife loves to go out shooting with me all the time.
We took our Concealed Carry class together and then she went one on one for the day long shooting portion without me. Her instructor was great and she was so proud of herself for trying out many different handguns and finding out that she was a natural shooter.
Now a days, we plan our shooting days out to be up in the mountains and we always pack a picnic along to enjoy where ever we find ourselves in the Rockies. She firmly believes that shooting is like any other sport and she gets disappointed with herself if she has a bad day out.
We went out shooting this past Monday with another couple and my buddy's wife wasn't into it at all. My wife tried to encourage her but it just didnt work out. Needless to say, some people just don't want to be involved with shooting not matter what is tried to get them into it.
Some background on my wife which makes things more amazing to me is that she is originally from Europe where the ownership of guns is very limited and her exposure to any firearm was nill. She got her U.S. Citizenship last year just before we moved back to the States. I took that opportunity to show her that she needed to exercise all her new rights to include 2A. Well, all I can say, she is "all in" as an American and I love her dearly for everything.
Good luck to all of you who have spouses who aren't as supportive with your hobbie as you would like them to be. Hopefully you support their hobbies with passion as well or you can't really expect them to follow suit.
There are a few things you can do and at least one has been mentioned.
Get her to a class. If possible a women only class. One of the obstacles is that because she knows nothing she doesn't want to look like an idiot. That and some guys are just twits when teaching women to shoot. Another is that when a spouse tries to teach the other spouse anything, it usually doesn't work. That is because correction from a spouse is viewed differently than correction from an instructor.
Another thing to try is to find a WITO, WOT or other woman's program where they do some basic training and let the women try all sorts of firearms. Again, takes the pressure off and she can relax and have fun with other women getting familiar with firearms.
I thoroughly enjoy teaching women only courses and supporting women only events in my area. They pay attention, follow instruction and coaching and ask great questions. They are usually on target faster and shooting better than most men who attend my classes. A woman instructor coach would be a good place to start or an experienced instructor or coach who has worked with women in the past.
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