This is a discussion on I refuse to live in fear. Ugg.... within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; My girlfriend of 7 years used to think the same way. I have carried daily for some time now and she doesn't object one bit, ...
My girlfriend of 7 years used to think the same way. I have carried daily for some time now and she doesn't object one bit, she says it makes her feel safe. I have taught her firearm safety, how to shoot, hunt etc over the years. She loves it, she especially loves revolvers. I told her she should get a gun to carry a couple years ago (I even offered to buy her one or let her carry one of mine). No permit needed here in VT to CC so it's not like the permit process deterred her. I have taught her a lot about firearms over the years and I feel very comfortable with her ability to carry and use a firearm, shes safe, smart, and frankly the girl can shoot exceptionally well. When I told her she should think about carrying she blew it off and said "I have never had any trouble before I don't need to carry a gun" I was shocked, shes very intelligent but that was just a stupid comment (did I mention she's the most stubborn girl I've ever know?). We talked for a while about it and she said she just doesn't feel a need and if someone tried to hurt her she would give them what they want and play along. Without getting into to much detail here it led to an argument and I eventually dropped it...for a while. Well a year later she was at bank making a deposit when a man walked in with his hands in his pocket and told the cashier he had a gun and to give him the money in the drawer. She quietly handed him the money without fuss and he left, and was never caught. After that day she has carried a snub .357 magnum in a bra holster or in her bag every time she leaves the house. It makes me smile and I got to use the "I told you so" for a good week
Unfortunately for some people something has to happen to change there mind and open there eyes to the world we live in. All you can do is hope it's something minor that takes them out of there protective bubble that they think they live in. Anyways good job Rollo, little progress is still progress. It's like religion though, no one likes it when people push or preach there beliefs so just be careful.
Vermont does not issue Permit/Licenses to Carry a Concealed firearm. Vermont allows anyone
who can legally own a firearm to carry it concealed without a permit of any kind.
It usually takes a local home invasion, carjacking, attack, robbery, murder or rape to get their attention. But, you will still see people who imagine or say that it can't happen to me.
One of the points is,
I don't carry a gun because I am afraid, I carry a gun to reduce my fear.
What you should have said to her is, "Carrying this OC will give you LESS to fear!"
Good job on getting her to realize she needs to be aware, and prepared.
Good to hear. We all should do more to shepherd our most oblivious sheep.
Well done, Rollo!
You have proven once again that it takes a conversation and appropriate questions to change a person's mind.
Until the person is shown (without forcing) the value of doing anything and comes to their own conclusion that it is a good idea, no amount of chiding or intimidation will change a person's mind.
Sounds like you really opened her eyes. You just gave her the tools to save herself if she chooses to use them. Good job!
I'm still trying to convince family members that the mere fact I own a gun isn't going to directly lead to my death and that carrying concealed isn't going to turn me into Rambo.
People who like this sort of thing will find this the sort of thing they like.
- Abraham Lincoln
A fanatic is one who can't change his mind and won't change the subject.
- Winston Churchill
An excellent, persuasive argument. Well done Rollo!
The inalienable right given to every American. Citizen's motto.I refuse to live in fear.
What is it with people who "refuse to live in fear"?
They prefer to live in danger.
NRA Certified Rifle/Pistol Instructor
Accuracy ALWAYS WINS! So carry what you can hit with.
If you find yourself in a fair fight your tactics stink.
Well played, Rollo. And I'm going to remember that argument that you used. That was briliant. I'll keep you guys posted as to whether I was able to convince my wife of the sanity of self protection, or if I spent the night on the couch.....