Long story short. I work for a community college. We aren’t located in the nicest part of town. While I can’t carry on campus I do carry my folding knife and OC spray. We have several buildings. A female friend of mine walks from one building (the one she works in) to another building. The buildings are about a quarter mile away. She is one of those “The criminals don’t own the streets, I’ll go where I please, I’m not afraid blah blah blah types. As far as I’m concerned she has ZERO regard for her own personal safety.
Well, today I must have been in a bad mood or something so I decided to say something to her. This is a paraphrase but it basically came down to “Look, you pay no attention when your walking around and there are a ton of blind spots. You need to pay better attention and at LEAST carry some OC spray, I’ll even buy it for you” Her response was “I refuse to live in fear”. Uggg.. Commendable but stupid as far as I am concerned. There’s a difference between living in fear and being prepared.
I said “Look, I’m not saying you have to carry a gun, I’m simply saying you need to have better awareness and you need to have SOME sort of defensive tool you can use if need be” And then the light bulb came on over the top of my head. I asked her “Do you wear your seatbelt when you drive?” She said yes. I said “Do you lock the door to your house at night? She said yes. I said “But… Why are you living in fear? Afraid your going to get in a car accident or afraid someone is going to break in your house? Using your argument your living in fear”. She then stated that it was not hard for her to buckle her seat belt or lock her apartment door. And at that point I knew I had her. “And it would be hard for you to clip this small can of OC spray inside your pocket?” BAM! She had no answer other then “No, I guess it wouldn’t”.
I took the can that I carry (I keep two extra’s at home) out of my pocket and gave it to her. She promised she would carry it and admitted that I was right and it wasn’t inconvenient to carry. Also went over a quick lesson in situational awareness. All in all it went fairly well. It’s not a gun but it’s a start.