1911 (45 ACP): Speer 230 Gold Dot. Feeds slick, shoots well in every gun I've tried, rated well by most.
HiPower (9mm): CorBon 115 JHP (but may be changing to their PowRBall or DPX after some more testing). The 115 JHP feeds in any gun I would use for carry (but not all guns), always shoots excellent groups, and is rated well by those who will rate any 9mm load under 147 grains well. I like the Winchester Ranger 127 +P+ also.
J-frames (38 Spl): Remington 158 SWC-HP +P