Some might say that a .45 has little recoil compared to the .40 round. Try shooting a .45 ultralight pistol. In reality it's more of your comfort level with the recoil profile. I know it cost money to rent but when you've narrowed it down to the pistols you want to own and carry, you need to shoot both of them side by side. My FFL friend carries a full size wilson combat 1911 OWB and two extra mags. That's a bit much for me but no issue for a man who always wears a sports coat.
Being able to hit where you aim is more important than caliber. There is no perfect gun. You can grow into a weapon that is awkward or grow out of one you liked as well. It must be something you can carry every day even if it's something as tiny as an LCP.
As far as Taurus is concearned, they make great revolvers.