Another Good Read: The Gift of Fear

Another Good Read: The Gift of Fear

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    Another Good Read: The Gift of Fear

    I have seen several posts on this site that mention instincts, gut feelings or the hairs on the back of the neck. A few years ago I came across a book that discusses those concepts. It’s called “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin De Becker. He discusses the fact that human beings are capable of picking up on signals or circumstances in our surroundings tell us we are not safe. What we do with those instincts often means the difference between a successful escape and becoming a victim (life or death). When we see a “sketchy” hanging around in the parking lot, we in turn watch him a little closer. The fact that we are watching him will indicate to him that we are probably not a soft target. He in turn decides to leave us a lone. Your standard sheeple will use logic to justify ignoring the potential threat. “This is a safe neighborhood.” “Bad things only happen to other people.’’ Or he is completely oblivious. The BG senses that and another police report gets created. He also discusses other types of threat assessments such as stalkers and disgruntled employees and gives recommendations for dealing with those situations. He discusses how restraining orders can be as useful as a brick wall or as dangerous as pouring gas on a fire. While this book does not address carrying a gun, it would be a very good read for those of us that do. I highly recommend it.


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    +1 I've read the book and agree completely.
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    Give some insight on how some people work, which makes it easier to deal with. Good read.

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    While this book does not address carrying a gun.
    Probably because de Becker is an "anti". He's against private citizens owning guns for self defense.

    But it's OK for his employees who are armed and work for his firm's bodyguard & personal protection division.

    The anti-gunners' typical double standard at work.


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    And go to your God like a soldier.

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    It's a darned good book. First principles. First impressions. Basic tactics. Most of the points he brings up are elemental and simple. Do them right, and you've moved a step ahead in your own recipe for avoiding danger and sensing disaster when it's brewing. Nothing's perfect, but it covers a lot of the things we try to practice, here, in our own lives. Good stuff, to be sure.

    Quote Originally Posted by Stirling XD View Post
    While this book does not address carrying a gun ...
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    Probably because de Becker is an "anti".
    It's also not a book about guns. It's about basic mindset, reading other people, reading situations. That applies to all times when one is walking out one's front door, whether armed or not.

    He may well be an anti-gunner type. Doesn't detract much from many of the principles described in the book, though.
    Your best weapon is your brain. Don't leave home without it.
    Thoughts: Justifiable self defense (A.O.J.).
    Explain: How does disarming victims reduce the number of victims?
    Reason over Force: The Gun is Civilization (Marko Kloos).
    NRA, SAF, GOA, OFF, ACLDN.

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    +1 on good book. Right from the start he describes a criminal act then has the woman work back thru the crime to see what she missed as warning signs.
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    First rate book for the mind and the perfect antidote to the news media.

    Is he an anti? It's been a while but recall that he is not strictly against armed citizens ... rather against loose cannons with guns. But I could be wrong. (Or was it citizens with loose cannons?)
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    He's staunchly against guns, and if you re-read the book you should notice his stance that guns in the home are a detriment to the safety of your children.

    I work in Corporate Security and we use GDB sometimes, especially to evaluate potential stalkers and any other threat that might boil down to some sort of psychosis or major mental defect. Ultimately, his recommendations always include to pay his company to protect us, because its not possible to protect yourself. It's a nice touch we're rather fond of.

    If you really want to read an anti gun rant, pick up his other book, protecting the gift. He regurgitates his first book and adds anti gun hysteria inducing rhetoric.

    Don't get me wrong, this is a good book to own because he's dead on in regards to how to assess most threats. You'd have to pick up three or four other books in order to cover as many bases as he does.
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    matiki--
    Thanks for the correction.
    Old testament....Shooting to Live 1942
    http://www.gutterfighting.org/files/...ng_to_live.pdf
    Newer testament... Kill or Get Killed 1976/1987
    http://www.gutterfighting.org/files/...Get_Killed.pdf

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    I agree that his stuff on intuition is educational. However, I don't recommend the book to anyone without cautioning them...I don't want them adversely affected by his elitist anti-gun crap.
    "Being a predator isn't always comfortable but the only other option is to be prey. That is not an acceptable option." ~Phil Messina

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    Well thanks for informing me he's an anti. I was unaware of that fact about him. However, I stand by my recommendation that this book contains useful information and insight. But from now on, I will recommend that people check it out from the library instead of buying it.

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    speaking of books, how many members have read or heard about a book
    called effective handgun defense by frank w. james. bought it a couple of
    years ago and thought it was pretty interesting. any input (good or bad)
    just curious. thanks in advance.
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    +1 on the book for the general content.
    +1 (or is that -1?) on his fairly obvious anti-gun stance.

    -JT

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cthulhu View Post
    +1 on the book for the general content.
    +1 (or is that -1?) on his fairly obvious anti-gun stance.

    -JT
    So would the +1 and -1 make it a zero?
    "Being a predator isn't always comfortable but the only other option is to be prey. That is not an acceptable option." ~Phil Messina

    If you carry in Condition 3, you have two empty chambers. One in the weapon...the other between your ears.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KenpoTex View Post
    So would the +1 and -1 make it a zero?
    Okay, then:

    +2 for the general intuition/violence prediction content
    -1 for the anti-gun spewage

    Ha!

    I have Protecting the Gift as well, but that's largely a repeat of the information in Gift of Fear, but geared to kids. Doesn't hurt to read, but if you've already read one, the other is a bit redundant.

    -JT

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