Ihave had my Kahr PM9 for three years. I too had this problem and was ready to sell the gun. Glad that I did not. The only quirk to this gun is proper loading either from slide lock or proper slingshotting. It does require an aggresssiive slingshot. That is not any special training requirment or learning curve. As others have mentioned when loading that first round thrust the gun forward with the right hand whilepulling pack the slide. I have loaded my firearm 1000's of times this way and once I recognized the technique have never had another fail to load. The accuracy and dependability of this gun more than make up for the quirk. Also, extremely easy to conceal, and carry. Light and ergonomic. POI is excellent and the long trigger pull is smooth and with practice can be mastered. Every gun you ever own will have its own characteristics. grip safety, where the mag release is, where the safety is, how to disassemble. The Kahr is no different. And an aggressive slingshot on the first round is really no big deal. I hope that you can wokr thru this as I believe this is a phenomenal gun.