Patience and Prayer Pay Off. Men- read this story please

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    Patience and Prayer Pay Off. Men- read this story please

    Ok, so here's my story, I will try to keep it short.

    I've loved guns for my whole life. I shot my first gun at age 6. I've been married for 16 years. Shortly after my wedding, I told my wife I wanted a gun. My wife told me "My old boyfriend once hold a gun point-blank to my forehead and I am terrified of guns, I don't want any in the house". I let it go for a while, then asked her if I got a gun and kept it in a small safe while at home was it ok, she said yes, but even if I came home I had to put it in the safe before giving her a kiss or doing anything else. We agreed. I carried my Sig for about 5 years then.

    I stopped carrying when my MS progressed. Then about a year ago I got interested again. I asked her the same question, we had since sold my little 1"x1" safe in a move. She said the same thing. I then asked if I could please try to teach her that gun's aren't bad, people can be. She walked out of the room, I took that as "not now".

    8 months ago Constitutional Carry passed in AZ. I REALLY got the fever then. Through discussion, my prayers and knowing my marriage and wife were ultimately more important than guns, I helped her understand them. She still wouldn't touch one or even want me to show one to her. I got a Beautiful Pro Carry II for Christmas and she asked that I keep it on the top shelf of the closet when I'm home. I did. It's WAY better than the old days. I don't have to run to the safe when I get home, I can take my time, I can now even keep it on the bedside table. I also have a 1962 six shooter from my dad. That I keep on the shelf int he coset. Fast forward to last weekend (been busy this week to post this) and we go to the grand opening of my range/LGS's new location opening and she is looking at the guns, and see's little girls as young as 10 signing up to shoot balloons int he range. I sign up to shoot and she says "can I go in with you"? YES!!!!!! I go in, load my 6" .38 revolver my dad gave me a few weeks ago. she looks at it with eyes wide open. Then it happened...

    "Do you think I can shoot it"? WOW, WHAT A CHANGE! I said sure, I took the time to teach her the rules. I then helped her learn to hold it, then she shot. Quite well actually, she shot an evil gun 18 times. I am SO proud of her.

    The moral of the story is I had patience with her. I took the time, I prayed about it. I taught her that her boyfriend instilled a fear in her that was un-teachable.

    On the other hand, this could end up biting me in the behind. today she said "when can we go back to the range? can I shoot your .45 next"? I feel confident that I will be buying her her own little pink .38 or .380 by Christmas.

    Please respect your wives men. Never pull the macho "I'm the mad of the house" crap. it's not the 1950's. Respect and faith pay off in the end.

    P.S. I now want an AR-15, she still thinks those are "scary looking". Next hurdle in view.

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    I've seen pink AR-15s, if that helps at all.

    If you let her shoot your .45, she'll probably want that, so don't waste your time with .380s, etc.
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    Congrats! She'll be wanting one of her own soon!
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    Excellent. I love reading stories like this. Your loving patience really paid off here.

    It's a nice change from the "leave her" and "just declare it as the man of the house" type posts I see.

    However, I'm also aware that some wives still won't come around, even after many years of loving patience. I feel for those guys. I don't know how they go on, but I raise an e-beer to them.

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    Great story! One more added to the nation of gun lovers.
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    Great story. I'm in a similar situation.

    My wife has recently asked to "go shooting" at the range.

    Definately, an exciting Turning Point.

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    Thats a good story man. In the end if you push to hard people just push back. Sounds like you did great. Also sounds like your wife and mine have something in common... They can shoot just about as good as us on their first/second time shooting. I help my wife with proper holding and teach her to aim.... she blows a hole through the middle of the target with only one or two strays...

    Anyhow Good luck man. Congrats

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    Glad to hear things turned around. A little warning to the wise; buy 2 AR-15s, my wife took my first one and I had to get another. Hey, there are worse problems in life , right? But seriously, woman seem to love the "macho" guns.
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    Good to hear that she's coming around.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ianator View Post
    Thats a good story man. In the end if you push to hard people just push back. Sounds like you did great. Also sounds like your wife and mine have something in common... They can shoot just about as good as us on their first/second time shooting. I help my wife with proper holding and teach her to aim.... she blows a hole through the middle of the target with only one or two strays...

    Anyhow Good luck man. Congrats
    I've heard that women are naturally better shooters because they don't pick up bad habits from playing with toy guns like anticipating recoil and slapping the trigger.

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    Well done sir. That's a strong lady you are married to. Not easy to trust after that experience with the old boyfriend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by paul34 View Post
    Excellent. I love reading stories like this. Your loving patience really paid off here.

    It's a nice change from the "leave her" and "just declare it as the man of the house" type posts I see.

    However, I'm also aware that some wives still won't come around, even after many years of loving patience. I feel for those guys. I don't know how they go on, but I raise an e-beer to them.
    I'm one of those guys and yes I keep praying about it.

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    Excellent indeed.
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    Little kids, and little girls in particular are the best salespeople for things of this nature.

    Women see them around firearms, and shooting them, AND doing it safely, and unafraid and they {the women} seem to lose the stigmatisms surounding the "evils of guns".
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    Great story. I am glad for you and your wife.

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    Great story. Thanks for sharing.!

    Make sure to post photos and a range report on your "scary looking" rifle, .. when you get it..
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