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    Wife got her permit!!! Need help

    First of all I just wanna say hello I'm new and this is my first post. I have been carrying for five years and have been trying to get my wife to carry all along with no success until last month she finally agreed to arm her self. I have been trying to talk her into a j frame for obvious reasons but she does not agree ( because recoil and she does not shoot them well). We have now narrowed it down to the lc9 or xd9 sub compact. I would like her to carry the xd because of capacity and accuracy but I want her to carry and feel she will carry the lc9 more due to comfort (she is stubborn as hell). My question for everyone is, what would you do in this situation ? Which of the two do you prefer and why? Also any other suggestions are welcome. Just let me know.

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    First off, welcome!

    Secondly, she is not being stubborn, because concealed carry and personal armament is something that an individual has to adopt and choose their own paths. Don't say she's stubborn, instead help her find a more comfortable way of carrying a different firearm. Encourage her, show her information, try different holsters for her, and take her to the range as much as she want's to go! In the end, it's all about what she prefers, because if she doesn't like it or isn't comfortable I guarantee you she will not carry it much if ever.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sc00ter079 View Post
    First of all I just wanna say hello I'm new and this is my first post. I have been carrying for five years and have been trying to get my wife to carry all along with no success until last month she finally agreed to arm her self. I have been trying to talk her into a j frame for obvious reasons but she does not agree ( because recoil and she does not shoot them well). We have now narrowed it down to the lc9 or xd9 sub compact. I would like her to carry the xd because of capacity and accuracy but I want her to carry and feel she will carry the lc9 more due to comfort (she is stubborn as hell). My question for everyone is, what would you do in this situation ? Which of the two do you prefer and why? Also any other suggestions are welcome. Just let me know.
    Always carry what you're comfortable with. Like all women, they get what they want, one way or another. -.-
    Have her hold/shoot the guns before buying if you haven't yet, I had my mind set on a gun, then held a different one, and completely changed my mind.

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    Let your wife pick the defensive firearm that she likes that way she ismore likely to carry and as important practice.

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    Welcome to the forum. I do agree with you on the capacity factor, however it is a bigger gun and would be more difficult for most women to conceal on body. Smith and Wesson just came out with a single stack 9mm M&P, Shield is the name if you can get your paws on one it may be a solution.

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    If momma ain't happy, nobody be happy.
    Did someone force your carry weapon upon you?
    Dollar to donuts, you went and picked out what YOU liked, what felt good to YOU, in the price range YOU wanted.
    Let her within reason do the same.
    Under one stipulation.
    She must acknowledge the workings of a semi-auto, and train with that in mind.
    Reloading mags.
    FTF drills.
    The whole 9 yards.
    she must show her dedication to becoming proficient, and knowing her firearm, from cleaning it, to understanding what ammo will best suit her.
    That is why my wife carries a 442, or her Taurus 85.
    She can shoot alright, but there is no hardcore dedication to knowing or understanding semi-autos.
    Can she shoot one of mine should she have to??????
    Yes, but not as "Hers" to use on a daily basis.

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    If it were me, I would want her to carry the XD, BUT, she is going to carry more often if she gets what she wants, and ultimately, that is what is most important (carrying more often).
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    She's more likely to carry and practice with the gun she picks and is comfortable with as opposed to the one you pick for her.
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    My wife always gets what she wants and I understand her comfort is what matters but that will never change the fact that she is stubborn lol but yeah thanks for the input she has shot both in question and loved them both but once again you are all right and thank you for setting me straight, It's what she is comfortable with that matters
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    From a woman's perspective, I REALLY like the LC9. I spent hours trying different guns and when it came down to it, LC9 won. It's big enough to be comfortable for practice, but not too big and it conceals well. Beware of the Talo (nickel) model though. I found the slide to be too slippery to get a good grip on. No issues with any other though. Just my .02 worth. :)
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    Welcome!

    My advice is short and sweet: LISTEN TO HER.

    There are various reasons, ranging from the chances she'll end up just leaving it at home, to you'll be on the couch for arguing with her, but at the end of the day, it's HER gun that SHE will carry. Just make sure she has something RELIABLE and she's trained and practices.

    That being said, I have the SA XD 9sc, and most female shooters I've taken to the range have liked it. Some have preferred it over the other ones they have shot. But she needs to pick her own gun out, and try shooting as many as she can before buying.

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    Hello and welcome from Tampa.

    She's not Stubborn...I'm Stubborn.
    You might as well let her pick and choose herself, if you go against her on this, she will just end up not carrying.

    I am a little surprised that she thinks a J frame has more recoil than an LC-9, been my experience that the sub-compacts are pretty "snappy".
    I can't speak for the XD, I've never fired one.

    "Oneshot" gave you pretty sound advice, I'd run with that if I were you. Just my $.02
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    Quote Originally Posted by Stubborn View Post
    She's not Stubborn...I'm Stubborn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sc00ter079 View Post
    My wife always gets what she wants and I understand her comfort is what matters but that will never change the fact that she is stubborn lol but yeah thanks for the input she has shot both in question and loved them both but once again you are all right and thank you for setting me straight, It's what she is comfortable with that matters
    If she likes both, then I would say go with the XD, unless it won't fit her concealment style. The XD is reliable, and has a much higher capacity.
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    Welcome, and I'm going with everyone that said, "let her choose". She'll carry it more, and practice with it more, if it's one that "she" likes, and is more comfortable carrying.
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