Yup.
Bindiboop, the only way you're going to know for certain whether a given gun is going to give you fits on the range is to shoot it, then compare it to others. No real way around that.
In my experience, everyone's "feel" with different guns can be quite different. What feels wonderful to one person might seem to kick like a mule to another person. Generally speaking, weight plays a huge role in the recoil handling ability of the smaller revolvers. Compare some of the S&W AirWeight variants, in either scandium or forged aluminum. That ~13-17oz weight will tend to slap your hand much harder than a similarly-sized revolver that's 8-10oz heavier.
For example, compare shooting the S&W 640 (23oz), S&W 442 AirWeight (15oz), S&W 340PD (11oz, in scandium/titanium), but then compare to, say, the S&W Model 60 3" or the Ruger SP-101 3" (27oz). They all behave very differently with the same .38spl round. Of course, some of these models are designed to take the abuse of .357. Many of the "classic" series of revolvers by S&W or Colt (and others) also feel different than the contemporary models by various makers. But the barrel axis and length affects recoil as well, the balance altering how it behaves when firing. Beyond mere weight, the grip's feel and grip material can change how rough the recoil feels. The Taurus and Ruger grip approach is different than what S&W tends to do, though even S&W varies the grip from model to model. Each of these guns can feel quite differently in the hand, particularly in .357 and any decent number of rounds shot at a time.
If you find one, definitely handle it (and shoot it, if you can): a Colt Detective Special.

