Something similar is going on with me and my wife. She's expressing interest in getting a CWP. All of my pistols are too big and the slides too stout for her to even budge... so we went looking the other week.
She liked how the S&W 5 shot .38spcl revolver fit her hand and the hammerless model appealed to her.
She also tried and liked the fit of the S&W Bodyguard .380. It fit her hand nicely and she was able to cycle the slide without trouble. It was a range rental so it was broken in some already...
The next thing we'll be doing is having her shoot the 2 pistols and see which she likes.
She tried the other compact pistols available as well but couldn't operate them... at all.
I'm thinking she's going to wind up getting the Bodyguard but it'll be her decision. I'm hanging back so I don't influence her unduly.