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A bit of an odd-ball, but you might consider the Browning BDM 9mm semi-auto pistol. It was built from 1994 up to just a few years ago. Extremely slim-line grips, suitable for my small hands. Ambidextrous controls. 15+1 capacity. Out of the box, you'll need a trigger job, as it's a bit rough and uneven until well broken in. DA pull is about ~9lbs or so, but SA pull is crisp about ~2.5-3lbs or so, with an average-length reset. Even though it's a longer, full-sized format, it's extremely concealable in an IWB holster given how flat it rides. Carried it for many years, myself.
It didn't turn out to be very popular for Browning, sales wise, but it's a decent shooter. I spent many a weekend running IPSC courses with it, bettering most folks with much spendier hardware. Got to the point with my first BDM that I could carve out little circles the size of Pepsi bottle caps in paper targets at 10yds. One downside is that it's not easy to work on; gunsmiths don't seem to like it, as putting it together after a full stripping is not simple. And they're not tremendously inexpensive, any longer, probably due to their not being a lot of them around. Not many after-market items for them. But we small-handed folks don't have a lot of choices out there.
Another option might be the venerable Browning Hi-Power. In either 9mm or .40, it's very capable. It's single-action, like the 1911. Many have carried this concealed, so it's possible, but this is a heavier and larger weapon. About the same size format as the BDM or a 5" 1911 Gov't model, more or less. Good for smaller hands, ambi safety, 13rd magazines. Very effective on IPSC shoots, as its heavier weight lends itself to accurate shooting.