Shop for a handgun just like you shop for shoes. Would you buy shoes just because they were recommended to you? Get your hands on as many handguns as you can. Several of them will feel "pretty good". A few of them will feel "just right". Pursue those.
Caliber and manufacturer don't make any difference, because if it doesn't feel right, you'll not shoot it enough to become proficient with it. If you're not proficient with it, you may as well carry a bat. ! Just my opinion.