Update: Talked to wifeypoo and she REALLY liked the PT111, moreso even than I thought. Helps that she used to own a PT Cruiser.
She was able to work the slide, trigger pull was OK dry firing, grip-trigger distance seemed fine. Only problem now is recoil, which we can't test without going to a range. Don't know of any near here that rent.
Incidentally, my wife is extremely strong for a woman.
Our plan is to buy the PT111 (9mm). If she doesn't like it in 9mm I can always use it as an alternate CCW and we can try the PT in .380 or .32 depending on how bad she thought the 9mm was. If she wants to trade up later it will be worth it.
I'm going to use my 10/22 to teach her the fundamentals of shooting... sight picture, etc. Since she's not military she'll eventually have to attend a class to get her CWL. I plan to suggestone I've heard good things about in Denver. They have Ladies Only classes which I think she'll like, but if not she can go co-ed just as easily.
I'd like to take a tactical pistol class together someday, but we'll see.