Recoil by caliber or recoil by shooter?
Everybody feel recoil differently, some are bothered by it, others not so much.
Now factor in various things like grain weight, gun weight, light or heavy frame, and barrel length and you have even more variables.
I'm not fond of shooting full house .357 loads out an an airweight snubbie, I'd rather shoot the .44 Magnum loads out of a N frame with a short barrel.
Each to his own, but I'm seldom bothered by recoil. I recently had a chance to shoot a S&W 500 and it seemed a lot tamer than I thought it would be.