If you have friends who carry and/or join a local concealed-carry club/Forum community, you may be able to "try on" some different firearms and setups.
I also wanted to keep with the 9x19 as my carry - my "pocket carry" is a Kahr PM9, and yes, it's a whole world's difference from my XDm9 3.8 Compact, which is my true-EDC (usually in a Pure Kustom Black Ops Pro, but occasionally in a CBST or MTAC - typically when I need a bit "flatter" concealment: not a fault of the Pure Kustom, rather, where and how I carry, the CBST/MTAC can sit a bit "flatter"), but it also doesn't handle like the larger pistols. When/if you step down to the sub-guns, that'll become even more apparent.The Kahr is 4 inches in height and .90 inches in thickness big difference in the other two. I think I could conceal that easier than a J Frame due to the height and thickness of a j frame is larger than the PM 9. My last resort will be a LCP 380, or keltec 380 or possibly a diamond back 380 although I want to carry a 9mm at the smallest for my primary.
Comp Tac vs Crossbreed Supertuck ..... which one is better ?Also wanted to add the two holsters that I have been looking into to conceal the best are the crossbreed supertuck and the MTAC. Which one would work the best?
^ Like I said there, which one of those two works better for me simply depends on the pants I'm wearing. It doesn't take long at all to slip them on/off, so if I find that one's bulging a bit strangely, I just get the other one, and see if that doesn't make it better. After a couple of weeks, I cycled through all of my different makes/models of pants, and had it pretty much figured out.
Overall, the problem is that to a certain extent, you're either going to have to modify your dress around what and how you carry, or you're going to have to modify how/what you carry around your dress.