Guys with gun toting wives or girlfriends

Guys with gun toting wives or girlfriends

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    Guys with gun toting wives or girlfriends

    Girls.....feel free to chime in any time. All advice needed.
    Here's the deal. I've been a lucky guy for a lot of years. Just so happens that all of the girls I've been interested in, got to know, and spent a lot of time with have all been either firearms friendly, or had a CC permit. All of them have liked guns or like to shoot.....except one.

    My current GF (I don't go through a lot if you were thinking that), shoots very well on target in the lane next to me when we do the indoor range. Given my experience with women, they simply shoot better than men naturally even if their natural instincts hold them back from actually killing someone. So this isn't about male vs female statistics. It's just that I took my GF to the outdoor club range over the new year holiday and we had a lot of fun. The smile on her face pretty much tells me everything I want to know. Thing is...I got to observe how she actually holds her pistol and herself while shooting her pistol with no lane barrier between us. She just simply doesn't hold a good platform to my thinking. Not judgmental on my part, but I've been in the military, worked hard on my shooting platform, shoot competitively, and know the basic form for good and stable function. She grasps the bottom of the mag well with support hand which goes against everything I know. She leans back instead of forward. Her back isn't even straight.

    She's a very independent girl, and God how I love women that can shoot or want to go to the range with me and have a good time.
    How do I start to give her some of my advice and what I have learned over the years on shooting her pistol? I mean she could be totally devastating on target if I schooled her on the basics even though she shoots pretty darned good anyway. I don't want to be overbearing and I don't want to sound like I know better than she does now. Something like that could be misconstrued as me being better than her, and I'm afraid that might squash the days of us going to the range and having fun. Incidentally, she posts a lot on facebook. The day we went to the range, we took a lot of pics. Her father is on facebook as well, and commented on one of her pics shooting my Desert Eagle (which she is fond of BTW)...and told here to "lean into it".

    Like I say, any and all advice would be appreciated and especially from a woman's stand point if you could put yourself in this position that I've described.
    I've been getting her geared up for possible USPSA matches this coming summer. Like her to at least do a steel challenge with me. I figure she hasn't realized her full potential, and how I could improve her shooting....if only I knew how to go about it without her feeling I know what's better for her to do. Know what I mean? I actually listen to her more than she does me. Thing is......I'm head over heals in love with this girl. Best advice needed, and thank you in advance. I don't want to ruin a good thing.
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    Well for starters you and me don't know each other from Adam but here's my take on this. What I read/heard is she's a real good shot AND she's a real independent girl. Your own words "I'm head over heels in love with this girl."

    Let it be. Let her dad point her into leaning into it when shooting the big Desert Eagle.

    This is my best advice FWIW. Granted my track record with girls ain't that hot. I got a couple character flaws. Probably the main one is I think like a guy. Number 2 everything I know about women/girls wouldn't fill up a standard size sewing thimble and I noticed girls were neat since I was about 10 years old so that's my best advice based on 51 years experience.

    I know more about dirt and crushed rock and I've got about 12-13 years experience there. Plus I been single all my life. Good Luck JD...I think you're gonna need it.
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    LOL!
    Maybe I quit worrying about it and just keep loading her magazines for her so she don't chip her nails? Damned if repairing them aint like $35 a pop anyway! Good box of ammo for $35.
    Thanks for the advice. Plan on remaining single myself after the first mistake. Just that I enjoy good company and someone who cares about me a little bit. Once you get older things come into perspective. I'll just keep taking pics for her to post on FB.
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    Leaning "into it" is one of those things a decent magnum sidearm, lever-action rifle (think .45-70) or 12ga shotgun with #00 Buck will resolve fairly quickly. As we all know, there are good reasons for "proper" stance and posture when shooting. Same as with any other athletic move: balance, solid control over the body and tool, easy ability to recover from problems.

    This sort of thing (with an independent-minded person who might well not take lightly any "intrusion" such retraining might entail) is one of the reasons many old farts strongly recommend having others train our S.O.'s such things. The voice of wisdom, I'd say, given the risks of backlash. Depends on your situation, and on your S.O.'s ability to learn preferred technique.
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    Teaching/coaching a spouse or significant other can be a roll of the dice on occasion, they either accept it or resent it.

    If she is shooting well on a flat range let it go for the time being. If you decide to go along with the match idea simply approach it by saying "ok you do great shooting this way but before the match I would like to show you A, B, C and so on"

    Since she is an independent person give her options let her make the choice of stance, grip and so on while keeping with good fundamentals.
    "A first rate man with a third rate gun is far better than the other way around". The gun is a tool, you are the craftsman that makes it work. There are those who say "if I had to do it, I could" yet they never go out and train to do it. Don't let stupid be your mindset. Harryball 2013

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    Teaching/coaching a spouse or significant other can be a roll of the dice on occasion, they either accept it or resent it.
    Exactly. That's where I'm at, that's why I asked for good advice. I've already boosted her (can't call it EGO since nly men have that) confidence? Telling her she shoots very well (which she does). I'm taking the back seat for good reasons even though I could knowingly turn her into the the terminator with a few lessons if taken well. Realize my predicament here. Or is it an issue at all? The steel challenge? Hey.....it's all for fun. I'd just like for her to have the experience, say she did it, have fun, and maybe come away with wanting to improve herself and do it more often. I supply the ammo, and I could care less about missed shots. Her having fun while building some skills makes me happy.
    So long as she don't chip her nails....LOL!
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    Quote Originally Posted by JDavisArk View Post
    LOL!
    Maybe I quit worrying about it and just keep loading her magazines for her so she don't chip her nails? Damned if repairing them aint like $35 a pop anyway! Good box of ammo for $35.
    Thanks for the advice. Plan on remaining single myself after the first mistake. Just that I enjoy good company and someone who cares about me a little bit. Once you get older things come into perspective. I'll just keep taking pics for her to post on FB.
    DUDE I didn't say drop her and remain single...HELL NO!!! MrCCW9mm and Tacman sound like a couple of wise older married guys probably wouldn't hurt me to give a listen to. Dude at my age it just plain sucks being single.

    And at $35 a repair I'd be loading her magazines too! Besides little things like that that couples do for each other is just plain nice.
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    Not knowing your exact situation, have you considered giving her a gift class to like an NRA Personal Protection course - or holding your honeymoon at Gunsite? LOL She might be more inclined to listen to a third party instructor, then when she's telling you all about what she learned you could begin to offer advice.
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    LOL!
    I can get her into girls day out at the range this summer with the club if she'll go alone. They do this every year. Coming from a third party might be good matter of fact! That way she don't hate me for bringing things up. Great idea! But that's at least a few months down the road AND I'll need to persuade her to do it!
    Gunsite honeymoon is out for now. LOL! Hot tubs and weekend vacations for now. LOL! But a good thought in time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NONAME762 View Post
    DUDE I didn't say drop her and remain single...HELL NO!!! MrCCW9mm and Tacman sound like a couple of wise older married guys probably wouldn't hurt me to give a listen to. Dude at my age it just plain sucks being single.

    And at $35 a repair I'd be loading her magazines too! Besides little things like that that couples do for each other is just plain nice.
    She's a keeper! LOL! I keep her happy....that's all that matters at this point. Being nice is something that I can do for sure. Especially for the girl of my dreams.
    Still looking for the girl's input here. I just gotta hear it from the other side.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tacman605 View Post
    Teaching/coaching a spouse or significant other can be a roll of the dice on occasion, they either accept it or resent it.

    If she is shooting well on a flat range let it go for the time being. If you decide to go along with the match idea simply approach it by saying "ok you do great shooting this way but before the match I would like to show you A, B, C and so on"

    Since she is an independent person give her options let her make the choice of stance, grip and so on while keeping with good fundamentals.
    Pretty top notch advise here. If she continues to get into it, starts getting involved in matches and WANTS to improve - there will be plenty of opportunity to coach and offer advice. Otherwise it's going in one ear and out the other and probably will be picking up resentment along the way.

    I have learned even with guys, most people shooting are just out having fun and are more than content just hitting the target, any advice I've tried to give for improving is usually shrugged off.

    And your right about women, God bless, it can be amazing how they can just naturally shoot better
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    I married a Marine , solved a lot of those issues.

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    Well, she's a Marine Corp brat. Her dad was a lifer and I just did my contract and got out.
    And your right about women, God bless, it can be amazing how they can just naturally shoot better
    Exactly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GunTeacher View Post
    Not knowing your exact situation, have you considered giving her a gift class to like an NRA Personal Protection course - or holding your honeymoon at Gunsite? LOL She might be more inclined to listen to a third party instructor, then when she's telling you all about what she learned you could begin to offer advice.
    A variation of this, if I may...
    Don't give her a gift class, rather invite her to join you in taking such a class. In addition to making it something you can share it also reinforces the idea that even "experienced" shooters can benefit from all levels of additional training.

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    Quote Originally Posted by whoppo View Post
    A variation of this, if I may...
    Don't give her a gift class, rather invite her to join you in taking such a class. In addition to making it something you can share it also reinforces the idea that even "experienced" shooters can benefit from all levels of additional training.

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    I'll keep that in mind when she talks about a weekend getaway and going to the casino. Much better ways to spend money right?
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