Adaptable & Transferable skills
Another way that we mimic the animal world is as fathers. Once we do our part and the children are born we are back at work doing out best to provide for them. The mothers are left to take care of the kids in the house, in transit, and wherever they go.
It comes as no surprise that the majority of MCS students are males, as I am sure the same is for the majority of other companies. Most guys who come in are the heads up type anyway, and as we know awareness allows you to avoid the majority of situations. They come to train for the situations they cannot avoid. Who has more of a need for realistic training, a heads up man who is well equipped, moving through life on his own, or a mother toting three kids around town? Who is the easier target? The main difference is that the man is in a self-defense role; the woman is in a protection role. I have to wonder why I am not seeing more guys bringing the mother of their children to class, or at least attending classes that provide information that is easily transferred.
I am not sure about any other husbands and fathers reading this but my family is my world. Because of that, I go to great pains to make sure that I know what hat I am wearing when I walk out the door. Am I the lone wolf or am I the caretaker?
Where does your family fit into your training? Are you going out and equipping yourself and training to defend against a few evil doers while you are alone, or the much more likely event of it happening when you have the family in tow?
Forums are full of posts of men asking what gun, knife, or whatever should I get for my wife to carry. The question needs to pose to them, not other guys, and not to single women who donít have to hold a little ones hand everywhere they go. Moms with kids in tow just have different considerations.
Talking the wife into carrying tools she does not feel comfortable with is worthless, as a matter of fact it is more than worthless, she may lose valuable time fumbling with it instead of doing something else that may save her life.
There are two major points I am trying to get across in this article. The first is that you need to take a hard look at your training if you spend anytime being responsible for others. You doing anything besides weapons training? If you wife canít or wonít carry a weapon, do you have training you can share with her? Can you differentiate between self-defense skills and protecting others? Have you trained to maintain physical contact with your wife and kids if attacked? Do you have an adaptable plan? Consider having your wife attend a class. You may learn she is more adept than you thought.
The second thing is to consider if your training is technique or principle based? Can you share it with others in your life, with people who have a higher likelihood of needing it than you? If not you may want to evaluate how you spend your time.
Personal preparedness and protection is a lifestyle, not a rank, certificate, or club.