I carry everywhere except work - where I have EDC knife in pocket and sometimes pepper spray. My wife comes from a thick anti-gun family background, but she has come a long way. She hasn't shot yet and I'm not wanting to push her into anything either. She knows I carry just about anywhere, but still asks me occasionally if I have "it". Mainly while at a grocery store or other public places where someone acting irregular catches her eye. She'll instantly look at me and quietly ask. I see it coming since I'd be watching this person and in tune with the situation long before her, so I usually smile at her or nod discreetly. Later in the car or at home she has mentioned how she feels safe knowing I have it. She also admits she is still scared of guns in general, which I can understand, and we are gradually working on converting her fear of firearms into respect for firearms.
Few weeks ago, we had a "bump in the night"; I cleared as usual and damn near shot the cat (not really, but have considered it). The next night, we talked about it. She brought up how she occasionally feels a less safe when I am away on my hunting/camping/outdoorsy manly type weekend trips. She even expressed interest in additional training on a firearm of mine before my next trip.
Even if I get her to go out shooting and start building familiarity and competency, it'll be a long time before she has a Kahr or snubby in her purse. Again, I don't think it's wise to push her into it - especially since her interest is growing organically I would however like to find some intermediate solutions she can use to protect herself and our kids when I am not around. I got her some pepper spray, but am afraid since her SA isn't as good about something like this, and that the 1.5 year old will get his hands on it from her purse.
Any pseudo kid proof solutions out there I'm missing? Thought of getting a taser type product, but with each attempt to research, I get lost with what features, voltage, safeties, etc is right for us.
Any insight to alternative protective weapons for women who aren't ready for a firearm?