I am active duty and will be deploying to Afghanistan here soon. I am also away from my wife and 9 year old son for months at a time even when "home" due to where I got stationed. My problem is that I want to ensure that my wife will at least be somewhat protected if she ever encounters a home invader/burglar/rapist while I am gone.
I am very proficient with the use of firearms in combat/defense situations and have talked to her about having one in the house that she could use (and us course she'd be trained on it) but she was against it. Maybe eventually I will be able to change her mind but it will not be in time before I leave.
Since I realize I cannot force her to get one I am looking at other options. Mainly pepper spray. I will be getting her two different units that will serve different purposes.
#1 Portable use in purse unit - The first one will be a small unit that she can carry in her purse with her at all times. It will spray a mist/fog pattern because I would expect that she would use it outside where backspray would be less of a chance than while in a confined space and I want her to have a better chance of hitting where she aims, even while scared.
#2 In home unit with higher capacity and easier to control - This I plan to be bigger and somewhere in the 9 oz range with either a firemaster or pistol grip for better ease of control and more capacity to really disable someone long enough for her to maneuver around them to get out of the house and/or call 911. I will post a poll on this within the thread but if you have anything else to add please post on it too.
I am still deciding on a few things when it comes to the larger unit for home protection. Namely between a stream spray and fog pattern since foam just seems to take too long to act. My concerns are that she will likely never experience the affects of the spray firsthand before she would have to use it (which makes fog less appealing due to higher chance of backspray in confined space such as a home) but she also is likely not a good marksman (which makes the stream less appealing). Even though we live in a "good" neighborhood I know that bad stuff can still happen when least expected. It really wrenches at me that I cannot protect her the way I want to but it is what it is.
I really don't think I will be able to change my wife's views on the whole gun thing and I know she won't have the time to invest in any real PD training or classes which means that I have a limited area that I am able to work within. I need something that is simple to use, effective, reliable, and minimal chance her incapacitating herself while trying to deploy it. I admittedly am trained more to put 2TTC1TTH than disable so I just don't know all the in's and out's of less-than-lethal and the benefits and disadvantages of the different devices. I would really appreciate any assistance you guys and girls could provide that helps me ensure my wife is protected while I am so far away.