Convincing Wife to Carry or...

[Shiphted]

So ive been carrying a gun for 10 Years, shooting for 20. Lately I have been trying to convince my wife to purchase a gun and/or take a handgun/self defense class. I really want her to do this because we live in alaska and she hikes alot and we have to deal with bears and other animals. She is adiment to not carry and consisting to not get a weapon. Even trying to lecture her on real world scenarious she just makes comments like people make about insurance. It cant happen to me. Help a

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[ArmyMan]

People who don't want to carry, won't. The best you can do is express your love and concern and maybe one day she'll come around. Take it from a divorce'ee that nagging or trying forcing her to do it is absolutely the wrong way to go.

[Hiram25]

How many victims do you think, say well, ok, I'm going to be a victim today, what should I wear?

[ccw9mm]

Suggest that she consider reading the material created (posts, blogs, web site, YouTube videos) by the following two Defensive Carry members: Pax; and LimaTunes.

Each can help provide the woman's, mother's perspective on the reality of keeping the family safe in today's world.

The real world includes Alaska. She might not take your word for the fact that surviving violence isn't an "insurance" game. Perhaps she'll consider a glimpse into how common violence is, even in Alaska.

• Violence Facts: Alaska
• UAA Justice Center @ University of Alaska at Anchorage
• Alaska Victimization Survey, 2010 -- violence against women in Alaska
• Violent Offenses, Alaska 2002-2010
• Violent Crime Statistics, Alaska 1960-2010

[dukalmighty]

Big can of bear whoopass otherwise known as bear spray,will work on smaller critters too,Not too sure how much deterrent spray is if she surprises a sow with cubs,from what I hear the bear spray may not stop a sow protecting her young.
As far as 2 legged animals it sounds like your wife likes living in denial,as long as she doesn't think about it then it won't happen...until it does,

[rdpG19]

Good luck, my wife and I got our permits together, she has a Walther PK380 that she really liked, shoots it real good. 2 years now and she has not carried it out of the house once other then two trips with me to the range where she shot a total of 50 rnds. Most women, (not all) don't think like we do about carrying and self defense, don't nag her, just lead her on a little here and there with suddle hints.

[archer51]

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink. Express your fears to her, give her the facts on violence in your area. Remind her that animals will react violently when startled or feel their territory is threatened or their young are endangered. Once she's armed with the fact, it is up to her to decide what to do.

[yz9890]

Big can of bear whoopass otherwise known as bear spray,will work on smaller critters too,Not too sure how much deterrent spray is if she surprises a sow with cubs,from what I hear the bear spray may not stop a sow protecting her young.

I'll second this. at least get her to take some spray.

[vca2004]

+1

Think about some alternative weapons she could promise you to carry with her (e.g. bear spray, stun gun for two-legged animals). Other than that, maybe she will react to the facts that ccw9mm noted. However, you cannot force her to carry a deadly weapon!

I wasn't anti-gun before I got my permit, but for me it took two home invasions in our town with gruesome details of how the wives were raped while the husbands were tied up and had to listen to the whole thing. THAT'S when I decided I can't just always hope for the best and tell myself that it only happens to other people, people that live in a bad neighborhood or in the bigger cities.

[Shiphted]

Thanks alot everyone. Appreciate the replies and help. I've some how got to get her past the state of kind of it hasn't happened yet type of deal. Ill see what I can do.


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[limatunes]

It's her decision. Ultimately. It's hard for some people to come to terms with because we want to protect those we love but her is an adult and capable of deciding what she does and does not want in her life. That includes a gun.

I know that's not the response you were looking for but the fact of the matter is that no one has the magic phrase or word or thing that is going to suddenly make the light come on for your wife and make her decide to carry.

I wrote a blog about this subject.. Limatunes' Range Diary: I Can't Help Your Wife

Not that I'm any kind of authority but I think there are some things to think about anyway.

[Shiphted]

Alot of the reasons I want her to carry she doesn't seem to get. Alot of the things she has to deal with would be bears, wolves when walking with my daughter, bull moose can even be a threat. And as sad as it is lately there has been what the police call mob beating. 3-4 kids are randomly just beating up someone. It's stupid but I dare them to try. Alaska's population would lose 3-4.


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[Shiphted]

It's her decision. Ultimately. It's hard for some people to come to terms with because we want to protect those we love but her is an adult and capable of deciding what she does and does not want in her life. That includes a gun.

I know that's not the response you were looking for but the fact of the matter is that no one has the magic phrase or word or thing that is going to suddenly make the light come on for your wife and make her decide to carry.

I wrote a blog about this subject.. Limatunes' Range Diary: I Can't Help Your Wife

Not that I'm any kind of authority but I think there are some things to think about anyway.

Awesome blog thanks it was a good read


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[patrol]

What he said....the bottom line is will she shoot someone if she has to or brandish it only long enough to get it taken away and used on her? Usually when they have children they look at things way different and may have the right mindset then to do what may need to be done. Until then Bear OC gas and a Taser is an option as well.

People who don't want to carry, won't. The best you can do is express your love and concern and maybe one day she'll come around. Take it from a divorce'ee that nagging or trying forcing her to do it is absolutely the wrong way to go.

[Glhadiator]

As already posted there is no secret answer or method. I have however been successful with three different women concerning introductions to using a handgun.
I simply set up a very non-competitive shooting using a 22 pistol. Somewhere out in the woods camping or fishing and just shooting at some cans. "Hey lets go plink some cans, it's a lot of fun!" This way they could shoot without feeling they were being 'watched' or judged. The 22 didn't give them a kick to scare them into thinking they couldn't handle a firearm. I made sure to have hearing protection so they didn't have a really loud bang.
The goal was to create a first time experience that was fun, non-competitive and non-frightening. I never talked to them about carrying or doing anything other than what we were doing at that time which was shooting cans. The reaction in all three cases was the same.

"Oh wow, that was a lot easier than I thought it was gonna be."

"Well, that was not so bad."

"Show me how to load that thing will ya?"

All three women now carry. But they came to that decision all on their own. And it was curiosty that led them to ask if I would show them how to shoot a larger caliber.

Good luck in your effort.