Like you, I personally don't want a safety to manipulate on the draw stroke. Not because I fear I'll miss it, but because I have to modify my grip at the holster to ready my thumb to operate the safety, hence it is measurably slower for me, but not by much.
For me personally, after years of vacillation, my preference is a DA/SA trigger. My first pick would be a 92FS if it weren't so long. Right now my pick is the Beretta PX4 9mm. The longer, heavier trigger pull is sufficently resistant to UDs. I have times around the house that I place my handgun in the chair beside me to avoid a belt and holster. The PX4 serves well here, long, heavier trigger with exposed hammer that you can readily detect if it's moving, and a safety on top of that. I just can't bring myself to deploy a Glock or M&P in that manner.