Thx again for input folks - well they do have enough experience to have handled and I think shot semi's but the strength issue will probably be a major factor - the lady is quite tiny.
Certainly they will be handling revo's as well for sure - as wide a selection of stuff as I can offer. I am still waiting for them to drop by.
I am thinking once things get narrowed down thru ''feel'' and manageability - a short list will be taken to the range for evaluation. It will be as I already know be in the 9mm/38 spl power zone.