Bit difficult knowing quite where this goes best but I think here will do OK.
I had to make one of two rather conflicting decisions yesterday - and implement today.
Situation - couple we bike with a lot - good friends and very good people - have a bad-news son who has quit a job (again) and has once more returned home to parasitize on his folks (he went astray long ago). He is heavily into the drug scene and there is good evidence to suggest that he has ripped off guys and upset them. There are at least two, maybe more, heavyweight dudes who probably would like to find him - and these days as we know, tracking folks down ain't as hard as it used to be. Plus - he is deep enough into the drug situation to be up there with the guys who speak with lead as well as words or broken legs.
Therefore (let's call these friends Sue and Brad) - with Brad away at work all day, Sue is on her own, currently with this scumbag son around. The stress is affecting her a lot and time is ripe to send the boy packing but hey - ya know - blood is thicker than water, still. Biggest concern is that if son's location is found and someone ''comes calling'' - she could be vulnerable and even more of a worry is that the daughter who is a lovely girl, could be there too - and so potential for all sorts of things. I hope very much it may not be long before the son is picked up by the cops.
Brad has two shotties, a hunting rifle and .22. None of these has been experienced by Sue (I lie - she has plinked with .22 plenty of times), plus - they are not too concealable. Hopefully we'll get her familiarized with a shottie very soon for HD. Long and short is - she needs a handgun, IMO NOW - there is also a benefit because once she has a CCW she can keep it handy when out if she wishes.
So - what was my conflict? First off - concern over her vulnerability and wanting to be able to feel that she was safe and able to defend herself. Second, was wanting her to have a handgun for herself, right now but - she is new to handguns, totally. So - leave her gunless because she is a newb - or go ahead and get her rather rapidly ''tooled up''. Brad has always been anti handgun, mostly because of early days when kids were small - concerns re safety etc. Anyways when he got back from work yesterday Sue tackled him on this - and fortunately he saw the whole picture and agreed to her getting one. Despite knowing this was jumping her in at the deep end, and I don't like folks being totally new to guns having to suddenly have to cope with one, inexperience and all - I felt this had to be way to go with the possible threats around. Hard to leave her without something.
They called round last evening and we had a long discussion - plus running thru many platforms and varieties of mine to see what she found felt good and manageable. For me base cal had to .380 and nothing smaller. Most of my 9mm's are too big and no way would they go buy an R9 - apart from which it'd take ages to get one and, not all ladies can manage that one. Snub was reasonable Ok but the only gun she felt really at ease with was the Bersa Thunder. We ran thru all aspects of the gun, drummed in safety rules - and after a bit she was sufficiently aux fait with it to enable her to feel enough confidence to go a step further.
So this morning I speak with my local FFL to see how long to get a Bersa and how much etc. Praise be - he had one in stock and price was exact same as Gunbroker prices so called Sue to tell her. She was shy on all the cash but I offered to top that up so we could get on it today. We slipped into town - did all the paperwork and got back here with the piece and sufficient time to spare to further go over it and dry fire etc. Also field strip.
She is a fast learner and I felt enough confidence in her that I could load the gun and let her go home with it stoked up - or in fact put another way - I had her coping well enough so she actually could load and make ready unassisted. The absolute need right now is of course range time but it was not possible today - hopefully tomorrow afternoon we can manage something. Meantime she at least has something on hand which naturally we hope is not needed.
She asked some very logical questions and got answers but this is one boatload of info to take on board in a hurry - and is not at all what I would normally choose as anyone's intro to handguns, particularly when the emphasis has be on defensive use - but I think I did the right thing and feel more at ease with this set-up than if I'd said - ''no gun yet, until practiced''. If she has any queries after thinking thru all we covered, I am only a phone call away.
Sorry this is long (Tangle length! hehe Ron ) but thought it might be of interest. Some folks might disagree with my decision but on balance it is her safety I have most in mind.