Last year I taught my fiance how to shoot, and bought her a Ruger GP-100 4" barrel, that she shoots fairly well with when downloaded to .38 special. I recently attempted to teach her how to handle the big revolver while also carrying a flashlight (I work nights and that would be when she would most likely have to do this). She did not like any of the techniques (harries, neck index, etc.).
I am now considering purchasing a Glock 19 and mounting an M3 light to it for her to employ for home defense. Any of you have any experience with this sort of set-up for your significant others? Would the recoil (for women) of a 9mm be equivalent to that of steel framed .357 with .38 specials? I am not particularly recoil adverse so I cannot really base what would be good for her on my experience.
I did have her try out department issued Glock 22 with the same set-up and she seemed to like the concept, but complained that the Glock 22 was a little "big" for her. Thus the rationale for the G19. I also picked the 9mm because I believe she would find the recoil a little more manageable, allowing more accurate follow-up shots. Everyone's thoughts and opinions are greatly appreciated. Thanks.