This is a discussion on Wifes opinion within the General Firearm Discussion forums, part of the Related Topics category; When I first decided to take the CCW course my wife was dead against me carrying a gun. 6 weeks later when my CCW came ...
August 27th, 2008 10:59 PM
When I first decided to take the CCW course my wife was dead against me carrying a gun. 6 weeks later when my CCW came her opinion had changed. Now a few weeks later she knows when I leave the house that I am armed.
Yesterday I got a CTC catalog and some literature. I read every piece of it last night (haven't watched the video yet). Today when I came home from work she had read the entire thing. She says "It looks like a laser grips are good a idea, you should really be able to shoot better in the dark".
She sees that I am serious about safety and security and I think that helps. Most of all I have to thank you guys (and girls). I am all the time asking her to read good posts here. I have to thank you all for helping her to see the light.
Now maybe in "a few weeks" she will want to carry herself.
August 27th, 2008 11:31 PM
Keep talking to her...encourage her...inform her of all the crime in Central Florida...she'll come around.
Stay armed...as a couple...stay safe!
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August 28th, 2008 12:15 AM
Yeah, just read her the paper everyday. She'll be wanting to carry in no time!
Congrats on your ccw and on having such an understanding spouse.
August 28th, 2008 12:23 AM
Originally Posted by XD9sc
That's how I convinced my wife to carry.
August 28th, 2008 12:39 AM
All I owned for a long time was a shotgun & .30-06 rifle. I also use my 70 year old mother's 10/22 (that is hard to say as a 35 year-old).
I had asked my wife long ago if it was ok if I bought a handgun, and she said sure. I was spending some time at gun shops and returned one day with a Glock. My wife was suprised and acted a little weird about it. She had thought I had been looking for a 10/22. She did act a little scared of the pistol as well (to be honest, I was a little nervous as well).
A day later I learned that my wife had wanted not only her own 10/22 and also 12 gague for trap and skeet. In addition, she wanted her own handgun.
Since then she purchased a 9mm P99C. She desided on her own (with help from others and without not much help from me). I did this so people would not think I was doing the typical buy a gun for the wife for myself. She has let people know she wants a shotgun for Christmas. We both attended the same CCW class, and she carries. She does not always carry due to her occupation (and this is odd she can't be armed if you knew her occupation).
I was very surprised to learn my wife had home SD issues. Just last night she suggested (out of the blue) we should load and hide a shotgun down stairs in case someone is breaking in and we don't have access (are cut off) from our weapons.
I think women are far more SD aware and concerned then many men. Don't be surprised if one day you find out she would like her own SD firearm. If it is a pistol, make sure it is a caliber she is comfortable with. You may find she wants to go to the range. My wife goes to the range almost weekly. She is very serious about knowing her weapon and improving. She talks about classes we should take.
August 28th, 2008 01:40 AM
Glad to see you both are learning; its more fun with a partner.
One piece of advice, don't believe everything a company trying to sell you a gadget tells you. Their only job is to separate you from your money.
August 28th, 2008 07:30 AM
I had the argument about buying a handgun years ago when I got a .357. I have always had a shotty.
She has been to the range with me and most times shoots better than I do with .38's (.357 shells have too much kick for her). "Counting my chickens" I would imagine she could shoot a 9mm just fine, I will rent one for her if we get to that point.
Sixto I have not decided to get (or not) laser grips. I merely told that story to illustrate the point. I will probably look into the pros/cons on DC this weekend. I agree if CTC was my company, I don't believe I would be sending negative info to potential customers either.
August 28th, 2008 08:44 AM
you need to show your wife the story about the lady abducted from her house that motorists called 911 to report that it looked like somebody in a car needed help,this was a cops grown daughter and even tho they looked for her 911 screwed up and the girl was found dead,but they caught the guy.Didn't do her any good by then it was too late but had she been armed might of turned out different,if that story doesn't open peoples eyes to just how much you have to put your safety in your own hands nothing will.That happened in Florida
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August 28th, 2008 09:44 AM
That's great. I bet it was a surprise to see she had suggestions for you when you got home .
"Don't hit a man if you can possibly avoid it; but if you do hit him, put him to sleep." - Theodore Roosevelt
August 28th, 2008 10:29 AM
Congratulations! Your good judgement and common sense approach to it all will do more than anything to convince your wife. A good book to have and share is Jeff Cooper's Principles of Personal Defense. I've given copies to several family members and friends.
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August 28th, 2008 10:29 AM
I had two incidences that pursuaded me to agree to my husbands demand that I start carrying. I could tell he was scared for me, and after the second time something "almost" happened, I was scared too.
We took the course, and as we were waiting for our licenses to be processed and sent to us, I realized I had made the right decision. In the 50 days it took us to get our license, our small "safe" country community had 12 homes robbed, one attempted abduction of a woman jogging on the track, 3 random physical assaults, and many other small crimes. I read the sherriffs report every week and I jotted them down. In a small town of 3000+, the odds seem to be getting greater every day that it will be my turn.
Tell your wife that I would be glad to explain in further detail of what led me to start carrying, and my first year afterwards. I read what all yall write everyday, and I never feel comfortable that I will be able to safe myself, or my children, when the time comes. I practice alot, a median of around 600 rounds a week. I figured if I felt I could win any attack or crime. then I will loose the first one. If I keep understanding that I am the underdog, keep practicing, then I will be ready for the inevitable.
Tell her I said sign up for the course.
October 12th, 2009 03:26 AM
Thread re-opened by OP's request.
Coimhéad fearg fhear na foighde; Beware the anger of a patient man.
October 12th, 2009 08:10 AM
The reason that I wanted to bring back this thread from the dead is simple.
My wife expressed an interested in carrying also!!! It took a few more months that I expected. I never once pressured her into this decision. I was just consistent with my concerns and actions regarding safety.
Now begins the fun of gun shopping! Any ideas for a small pink gun. Just kidding about the pink I am pretty sure I can get pink grips for most any gun.
October 12th, 2009 08:26 AM
It's great to hear she has decided to carry. Take her to the local fun shop/range and let her pick a few to rent and try.
When we got the first one, I helped pick it out, well I actually told hubby if he didn't want it I did, he liked it and it was his Christmas gift. That was 10 months and 9 guns ago, but he has picked out every one of his, and I've chosen mine on my own. Guns are personal, what might be good for you might not be good for her and vice-versa.
I ws lucky I didn't need to make much changes in the normal wardrobe to conceal a gun, but it is something she might need to do, depending on how she dresses and what she wants to carry.
Let her make her choice, but please discourge any form of off-body carry.
Oh, and tell her congrats from me.
Disclaimer: The posts made by this member are only the members opinion, not a reflection on anyone else, nor the group, and should not be cause for anyone to get their undergarments wedged in an uncomfortable position.
October 12th, 2009 09:45 AM
That's because we know we can be overpowered by a male attacker. We don't have the strength or knowledge to win a hand-to-hand assault.
Originally Posted by Thanis
A gun gives us much better odds!
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