Need help deciding on new pistol
I've always enjoyed pistol shooting and my parents recently decided they would buy me my own since I'm only 20.
I've shot various small calibers but mainly my dads Glock 19. This gun has always felt manageable but very snappy in my hands. I've been browsing forums for a few weeks and have seen multiple people say that 9mm and .40 are often times "snappy" while the .45acp is more of a slower push. Basically I can't decide between the .45 or the 9mm but I've never shot a polymer .45
I've been looking at the Springfield XD but unfortunately there isn't a place near me that rents handguns so I can't just go out and shoot them both and decide for myself.
Whatever I end up buying is going to be used for range shooting and be used for home defense since I live with my girlfriend and while I would never expect anything to happen I'd rather be prepared for it if it does.