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    I feel your pain. My wife has her ccw and carries... but she just takes it so lightly it bothers me. She wont even look for ammo when she goes to the store even though she has a new gun she hasnt even shot cause she has no bullets.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thebigdl86 View Post
    I feel your pain. My wife has her ccw and carries... but she just takes it so lightly it bothers me. She wont even look for ammo when she goes to the store even though she has a new gun she hasnt even shot cause she has no bullets.
    I'm sorry for laughing, but that was funny.

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    Marriage Counseling: Not!

    This whole thread is encouraging tonight. I spent the entire day in the slammer 'cause I didn't read her mind, and when I objected to the minor requirement that I read her mind, I really caught it. So much for understanding women.

    Retract everything I ever said about women, including my posts on this thread. I am obviously a real moron or worse.

    She carries too. Probably 'cause I'm too dumb to protect myself.

    Give her time Pro, otherwise you might end up like me! LOL.
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    My wife refuses to carry also. She says that is what she has me for! I can't be with her all the time, I work a day job, she is a stay at home mom. I make sure the vehicles are always gassed up and working well, and that the house is secure when I leave. That's the best that I, or you, can do for now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rock and Glock View Post
    This whole thread is encouraging tonight. I spent the entire day in the slammer 'cause I didn't read her mind, and when I objected to the minor requirement that I read her mind, I really caught it. So much for understanding women.
    This is none of my business, but is this going to put your carry status in jeopardy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by grady View Post
    This is none of my business, but is this going to put your carry status in jeopardy?
    Thanks for asking, but no. Yea, and if I posted it, it's anybody's business I guess. No privacy on Al Gore's internet......

    I meant "Slammer" figuratively, LOL, as in the "Doghouse", "Hotwater", etc. I was on Her "List".....the one nobody wants to be on, LOL.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rock and Glock View Post
    I meant "Slammer" figuratively, LOL, as in the "Doghouse", "Hotwater", etc. I was on Her "List".....the one nobody wants to be on, LOL.
    Oops, my bad. I thought you meant the pokey.

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    my wife was the same way, she didnt want anything to with guns or be around them. we have a 3 month old baby and a couple of weeks ago somebody tried to kick our door in and she changed her mind, and has been looking into getting a handgun, she finally decided on one and she is set on a Glock 19. and Rock and Glock i think all women are like that they want you to read there minds and you think you got it right and when you do or say what you think you got right they bite your head off lol, at least thats the way my wife is.
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    Got the same problem with my girl, I convinced her to carry a knife at all times, finally. But can't convince her to even GET a gun to keep in the house. It drives me insane. She has the mindset of "I'll just run away and call the police." And that's great n' all... assuming she is able to get away and that the police are able to respond.

    Give her a break, unfortunately some people just don't feel the need to be prepared until something horrible happens. It's the old "It can't happen to me" mindset... terrible thing...
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    My wife won't even look at a gun, let alone touch one. My oldest daughter is the same way (24). I got them both these...


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    Quote Originally Posted by BikerRN View Post

    It sounds to me like you are forcing the issue, and this is driving her away. It's like the old saying, "You can lead a horse to water............
    I think you know the rest.

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    When it started looking like my girlfriend, who was ambivalent to borderline anti on guns, was going to be my wife, she made it clear to me that with children, my status as a gun owner would change, and that at a minimum all guns would be unloaded and locked up. I made it clear to her that her status as my significant other was about to change immediately. So she stayed and slowly came around in steps. When she got pregnant, I made it clear to her that I held her responsible for protecting my children and their mother when I am not around. So she carries 100% when away, but not at home, where the weapons stay in our bedroom in a quick access safe. I often carry at home. I recently purchased a quick access safe for the kitchen/living room area since that is closer to the door. Her parents, who are politically neutral to pro but personally anti, still don't know what to think about all this.
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    I guess they will have to get over it.

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    Sorry you have to come to such a brick wall.

    I this Gilraen hit a pretty big nail right on the head though.. Sometimes people just don't see the need, EVER, until they are forced out on their own.

    What comfort you CAN take away from this is that everything you said HAS gotten through. She may not be using it but at least the info is there.

    If, in the time of need, she DOES come around she will be armed with the information to do something.

    I think of the women who are suddenly left alone, whether it be through death, divorce, etc, and they have absolutely no idea where to turn to. The best they end up with is an old baseball bat or gulf club from the garage. They don't know the first thing about self defense and couldn't even find the road there if it was paved before them.

    Your wife has the information. She knows where the gun is. She knows what she has to do to get herself started. Sure, she doesn't have the motivation, but if she wants to start she can do it tomorrow.

    I do agree with other people that it may be time to give her a break. You get a huge A for effort though!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pro2A View Post
    The gun is not the issue. She is pro-2A, has no issue with firearms what-so-ever, and she even has her LTCF...

    The issue is she does not utilize that right. Hence the frustration.

    As others have said, I'm probably going to let the issue go for now... I'd hate it to come down to this, but it may take something extreme for her to learn.

    Ok, I was under the impression that she was just against guns period. I see your frustration now, the knowledge, training are there, but not the desire, now that's a tough one.
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