OK, this is a thread topic I've thought about starting too.
This could be a really useful thread "if" we could get to the bottom of this phenomenon somehow.
Not meaning to hijack this at all, but allow me to let off some steam, but here is a similarity to the OP. Just the other day my wife announced that she was going to go up to our store room that is on our property about 3/10ths of a mile away from our house. She always drives. I was on the phone at the time and got off pretty quickly to catch her before she left. Too late, she was driving off to the storeroom. I was getting ready to go up there, but she got finished quickly and I could see her headed back home.
When she got back:
I asked her did she bring her gun? Her answer was "no"
I asked her did she at least bring her cell phone? Her answer was "no"
My response was :aargh4: :rant: :blink: :nono:(<--- all silently to myself of course :smoke23:)
For quite a while when we are out in the public, or on a day trip, I've put on my best teacher/husband/caring partner role that I can do. We talk about how she can park at a store to her advantage, notice people around us, then ask her about what she saw, were they suspicious and why. What she would do, etc. She readily contributes to our discussion, has good input, enjoys the "lesson" etc.
So I think I've been making a tiny bit of progress with her all this time, then this happens !
So what's up with this and why? She understands where I'm coming from and why, no argument whatsoever there. I'm plenty patient and I know it takes time. This is a discussion about life and limb....pretty important topic so I'd think that one should advance at a somewhat measureable rate, but maybe not?
1. Is this something that can have a gender pattern to it? (not bashing men or women at all, just asking for opinions)
2. Is it affected by a families genetics somehow?
3. Is it affected by one's lifestyle/parenting/culture while growing up as a child?
4. Have I spent too much of my time being her eyes and ears for her while looking out for her safety and created her complacency?
My wife just walked in the room while I was typing this thread, and I reminded her about the storeroom trip and asked her why she left here so vulnerable. She said that she just didn't think about it, and feels safe when she's around here (home turf I suppose). Personally I think it's #4 for me, I know she's often said that she always feel safe when I'm with her. That's nice and all, but I can't be with her 100% of the time, and I also would like her vigilant when we're out together also.
Where is the smilie with the guy repeatedly bashing his head into the wall?