Who gets the flag????
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September 9th, 2012 04:03 AM
Sorry for your loss being a vet myself I've lost alot of friends. My father is also a Vietnam vet and is in really bad health. If you wouldn't mind PMing me or emailing me jisenhart21 (at) gmail.com, when you complete the shadow box. I'd love to see it so I can see all of what your father has done and also for ideas for my father when that painful day comes.
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September 9th, 2012 07:26 AM
I'm also licensed and this is how it usually pans out. ^^
Originally Posted by SgtRick
Here's the kicker: "proper" protocol does not have to be followed. I always ask the family before the honors are rendered, "Who would you all like to have the flag presented to?". I've seen many step-spouses agree that one of the children, or grandchildren or sibling, should receive it. We never assume it will go to the immediate next of kin. That's a decision we let the family make. They know who should receive it more than anyone else.
To the OP, I'm also sorry about your father's passing. I hope you find peace in whatever decisions are made.
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September 9th, 2012 09:04 AM
Sorry to hear about your father.
My father, a WWII veteran passed away two years ago. Since my mother had already passed away, my sister and I were his two closest living survivors. The funeral director asked me who should receive the flag, and I asked for it to be given to my son (the only grandson and one of the pallbearers). It was just a personal choice that I wanted to do for my son, giving him a special remembrance about my father. My sister was fine with my impromptu decision, and she arranged for my daughter (his granddaughter) to receive something special as well.
September 9th, 2012 10:55 AM
Yep. It's the surviving spouse who receives the flag. In the words of our esteemed First Lady "all this for a damned flag?"
I know that flag means a lot to you but it probably does to your stepmother, too. You have his insignia so at least you know that he wore it for a linger time than he wore the flag that will be presented. I have all my decorations & badges in a display case that will go to my son when I die. My flag will go to my wife or if she's also dead to my oldest daughter according to tradition.
I'm sorry for the loss of your father. May the Colonel rest in peace.
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September 9th, 2012 11:28 AM
Having served on several funeral escorts during my career. The protocol was always, if single with no children, the flag was presented to the parents. If parents were no longer married, the coffin flag went to the mother, a second flag went to the father.
If the service member was married, the flag went to the wife.
If the wife had proceeded him in death, the flag went to the oldest child.
Sorry for your loss.
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September 9th, 2012 11:38 AM
I totally agree with you. That is the way we worked as well. We do not make decisions such as that for a family. I do get extra flags for them if needed.
Originally Posted by deadguy
September 9th, 2012 12:53 PM
Sorry to hear of the loss of your Father.
Blessed is he who served our country with such patriotism, and grace.
May he rest in peace, and remain in the hearts and minds of those close to him.
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