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    Hello from the open carry state of PA. Thirty six years ago I had to give up my guns because my new
    wife is deathly afraid of guns. I had been raised with firearms. About three months ago I purchased
    a handgun for self protection and to protect all law abiding people. My wife was and is not happy, but
    seems to be adjusting. I have not told her I plan to conceal carry the weapon and don't know if I
    should. Sometimes it seems to me I should just carry without telling her?

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    Quote Originally Posted by meh9988 View Post
    Hello from the open carry state of PA. Thirty six years ago I had to give up my guns because my new
    wife is deathly afraid of guns. I had been raised with firearms. About three months ago I purchased
    a handgun for self protection and to protect all law abiding people. My wife was and is not happy, but
    seems to be adjusting. I have not told her I plan to conceal carry the weapon and don't know if I
    should. Sometimes it seems to me I should just carry without telling her?
    I'm new here also. I open carry and my wifes whole side of the family has a problem with it. My father and brother in law have CCP's. My father-in-law says "A person in a theatre with a gun on their side would make me all nervous and I'd be wondering if he is guna start shooting". Yet if one had one in Aurora what would have been the result?

    I am on the fence none the less as I feel open carry is the most declarous way to inform others "Don't tread on me!". "If a cop can do it, why can't I?". I may get one once the whole reciprocity thing is worked out but I do not want to get into that habit only to have it removed when I need it it most.

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    I am new to guns. Married 41 years. She is not a gun lover either. She has fired a 22 rifle on occasion when younger but never a handgun. Its a sore point of me carrying concealed. I opted for the 3speedholster one because of my wife (It's sort of a DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL policy). And two I am retired, living in Houston, TX area. I spend a good deal of time wearing shorts and on occasion Wrangler jeans. I have been wearing my conceal weapon for the past three weeks. I wear it just as the picture shows, slightly above the belt. It has a 9+1(Chambered) i have a 15 round spare mag (.40S&W). so far she hasn't said boo to me.
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    I stopped at "36 years ago I had to give up my guns", you married the wrong women!

    J/k, I don't exactly know how I would handle that one - I would be open and upfront about it, but probably try my best to keep it out of her sight and mind. I couldn't imagine trying to completely keeping it hidden from my wife. Best of luck, welcome to the forum.
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    Tricky ground here indeed. These are my thoughts and mine alone. You gave her 36 gun free years it sounds like. My folks taught me to share. With that in mind it's long past time for your wife to step up and learn to share too. Granted it will be a tough row for you to hoe.

    You might want to buy a 22 rifle and take her with you to the range. The 22 is a fine weapon to learn on. That's what I cut my teeth on from my Red Ryder BB gun.
    Heck, I still own 7 22s. Teach her the Golden Rules about guns. She might actually enjoy shooting. The kick from a 22 is so slight it won't even muss up her hairdo.

    If the range you go to has a Ladies Day get her to the range then and introduce her all round. I know this sounds like a semi cheeky/sneaky way to go about it but then you put up with her for 36 years and her no gun policy. Ask some of the old guys here who've been married forever.

    I do not appear on a TV program as a married man. If I did I would follow the script precisely. Nor am I married in Real Life. Any advice I give to married men, know this gentlemen, don't take it with a grain of salt...take it with an 8 axles truckload of salt. That would be 105,500# gross weight in WA state.

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    Welcome from Wisconsin! My wife seldom knows when I'm carrying, not that she'd care. Concealed is concealed.
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    Best advice I could give you is to be honest with her and tell her what you are going to do and why you are going to do this.
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    You'll work it out.
    Absolutely I would carry since your two lives are no less precious outside of your home than they are in it.

    Eventually she will understand the logic.

    AKA You will defend yourselves inside of your home but, you will relegate yourselves to being unarmed victims out in public?

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