This is a discussion on New Member saying hello! I live in Boston, MA. within the New Members Introduce Yourself forums, part of the DefensiveCarry.com Forum Office category; I just wanted to say hello and tell you my story why I carry for personal protection. I was a survivor of gun violence. I ...
I just wanted to say hello and tell you my story why I carry for personal protection.
I was a survivor of gun violence. I blame the person, not the gun!
On Jan 1st at 1am, my ex, who was drunk (No excuse!) woke me up in a rage. He was mad that I was asleep and didn't want to go out on New Years (I worked a 10 hour shift and had about 2 hours sleep). He was pacing back and forth at the foot of the bed and ranting.
I made my way to the living room onto the couch to get away from him. He sits next to me and pulls out his 9MM and puts in against my head. All I could do was stare at him.....just stare. He then walks outside, fires off 9 shots and comes back in. He places the gun against my head again and says "Can you smell the gun powder?" So I just stared at him. He puts the gun down, takes out his knife, holds my arm so I couldn't get away and puts the point up against my neck. He said "Well, how about I just cut you open, leave a nice line across your neck?" I started at him again. He starts to push the knife in my neck, I couldn't get away so I said "OK, OK, OK!" and he stops.
He starts crying and ranting "I will murder you and I have friends who will hide me." All I could do was stare at him. I was scared. If I called the police he would have killed me. I couldn't get away because he knows how to stalk people. In fact, he has done this to another woman he dates, but I didn't find out till way later.
A week goes by (you have to understand, emotional and physical abuse makes you scared to run) and I was awaken again by him. He told me that he would not have any problem bashing my head in, strangling me and burying me in the back yard. This time, I ran toward the door with the phone but he was following me. I don't know how I did it but I someone calmed him down. He said "you will be a good Christian woman and follow what a Christian man says. I don't care if we have kids, if you go horse crazy again, I will leave you." (I own horses....he was jealous of the horse!). He went to sleep. The next morning, I ran.
I went to the police and filed a report. They asked me why I didn't run after the first event and I told him that he would have killed me. They arrested him. He was charged with two felony counts of aggravated assault, one with a deadly weapon. I was granted a permanent restraining order in Florida.
After a year of fighting with his lawyer, my ex plead guilty to the felony counts but was spared jail time. The damn Liberal judge didn't want him to be a burden on the state. He has 3 years probation, which ends 2015. 6 months later I was called in by a Homicide Detective on a murder investigation where my ex was a suspect.
I have friends in law enforcement. A good friend of mine is a retired Homicide Detective for the Miami-Dade police department and he begged me to get a gun, CCL and watch orders. I had my address hidden from public and I got watch orders. Watch orders is where the police watch your apt while you are at home and at work. They would come knock on my door to see if I was OK from time to time.
My Detective fiend also told me "When seconds count, the police are minute away." And even though I had a permanent restraining order, that's not going to stop my ex from going after me so I needed to protect myself.
My protection is my 12 gauge shot gun Modified for home defense and my .45 ACP Sig Sauer Elite Carry Dark. When I lived in Florida, I would shoot my Sig two times a week at the range. I love this gun. Very easy to aim and shoot.
I just moved to Boston and read the laws on gun ownership. I left my guns with my brother, who live in Georgia since you cannot have a gun in Boston without a license. I took my gun safety course, took the shooting test. I scored a 252 out of 300. You had to shoot at 7 and 15 yards. First time shooting a 357 mag revolver too. The Officers giving the test were very impressed ( they said my grouping was very good). Not bad for a woman that's 5'1 and 100lbs. I also passed all the inspections. Then, I had to talk to the Lt. Detective and tell him why I needed a CCL.
1. I work at BMC from 6pm till 4:30am. I walk home from work.
2. My crazy ex works for Siemens as a Electrical Engineer and he comes to Boston twice a year to work on the Turbines. I don't know if he knows I live here and I cannot take that chance. I also filed a petition for a restraining order here since the original one only is valid in Florida
3. Boston is high in crime.
So now, I have to submit all the paperwork from my Domestic Abuse case to him and he can say weather I can or cannot have a Class A unrestricted license to carry. He told me that I'm not allow to carry to work since my job in on a college campus. Nice. We all know what happens in Gun Free zones right? But the Abuse case will grant me a license. So once I get my license in the mail I'll have to submit the paperwork to the Lt. Detective.
I know carrying concealed is a huge responsibility. I don't drink or go to bars. I have a few Friends here in Boston and I don't hang out with undesirables. It's not like I'm going to show or tell anybody I carry. That's very irresponsible and dangerous. I have my guns for home defense and personal defense. I already found a great gun club to join so I can keep on practicing. I rather have it and not need it then to need it and not have it.
I thank you for listening to me.
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I think you could have brought the guns when moving. You would have had 60 days to apply for your license to carry. See this writeup at northeastshooters.com.
Once you get your license to carry, you can buy pepper spray. You can carry that on college campuses, and it's better than nothing.
You can carry on campus if you get “the written authorization of the board or officer in charge of such […] college or university” (MGL 269 10(j)). It's a long shot, but it can't hurt to ask. Campus police is probably the best place to start.
Yours is a great story of survival. Welcome from Memphis.
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