Motorcycle wreck kills woman, and I was there...

This is a discussion on Motorcycle wreck kills woman, and I was there... within the Off Topic & Humor Discussion forums, part of the The Back Porch category; Please don't second guess yourself. You and your wife did everything you could. Like others have said, the woman knew you were there. It has ...

Page 2 of 3 FirstFirst 123 LastLast
Results 16 to 30 of 43
Like Tree44Likes

Thread: Motorcycle wreck kills woman, and I was there...

  1. #16
    Senior Member Array darbo's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Location
    Fl
    Posts
    531
    Please don't second guess yourself. You and your wife did everything you could. Like others have said, the woman knew you were there.

    It has been many years but I was driving the car behind the car that was hit head on at 60mph. I couldn't do anything for the young woman in the car. She was trapped in the driver seat and the doors were completely stuck shut. She had a little pulse for a while. I just touched her cheek from time to time and told her help was on the way. Found out later she was 2 weeks from getting married.

  2. Remove Ads

  3. #17
    VIP Member Array paaiyan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Oklahoma
    Posts
    2,071
    The lack of sleep is starting to affect my health at this point I think. I'm very seriously considering calling in sick to work tomorrow if I feel anything in the morning like I do now. Thanks for the encouragement guys, it helps.
    My blog

    WARNING: This post may contain material offensive to those who lack wit, humor, common sense and/or supporting factual or anecdotal evidence. All statements and assertions contained herein may be subject to literary devices not limited to: irony, metaphor, allusion and dripping sarcasm.

  4. #18
    VIP Member Array Eagleks's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Location
    Kansas
    Posts
    7,629
    One thing I was told .... when training for emergency extractions & rescue .... and it stuck.... was told me by a Nun.

    " Some times, it's not in your hands, and when you know there is nothing you can do to save them, the best thing you can do is..... to comfort them and let them know they are not alone, so they can go in peace" .

    You can't save everyone. I"ve seen 'lots' of people die in my life, and known many who have. I died once and was brought back, when I was 16 yrs old.

    Personally, .... the helmet question, is nothing you should argue, carry around, or be concerned with. It was her choice, she could have worn a helmet even if her husband didn't, and I'm sure he didn't talk her out of it. Second, it may have not made any difference at those speeds, helmets only do so much and not a whole bunch after 30 mph.

    Also, I would send the husband a card, and if you want something to encourage his recovery and his morale. He is feeling bad enough if he lost his wife, and doesn't need "opinions" of anyone else. He will feel worse than anyone can imagine and won't forget this the rest of his life. He may not remember the accident, and the worse thing is meeting someone there and having to relive it over and over ..... he'll do enough of that on his own.

    Move on with your life, and leave it alone. It's not in your hands, and your opinions at this point, will do no good for anyone....

    My wife saw a guy t-bone one car, fly over the top of it as it rolled the car, and then hit the top of a truck right in front of her at a stoplight. The guy was 1/2 way out of his car, head toward the pavement, and it was obvious his skull had been crushed... and his head swelled up the size of a big watermelon. She had nightmares and such for quite a while, and woke up a lot. Don't put yourself thru that.

    Make peace with it, and say a prayer for her. It wasn't in your hands. You were a witness, that's it.
    Bark'n, Retiredonce, DMan and 2 others like this.
    I don't make jokes. I just watch the government and report the facts. --- Will Rogers ---
    Chief Justice John Roberts : "I don't see how you can read Heller and not take away from it the notion that the Second Amendment...was extremely important to the framers in their view of what liberty meant."

  5. #19
    VIP Member Array paramedic70002's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Franklin, VA
    Posts
    5,122
    I worked a particularly odd and traumatic fatality once that happened in front of "Dave's" house. Dave heard the crash, was first on scene, called 911, and tried to extricate the driver. The driver was crushed in the cab of the upside down small pickup truck, and his fingers were pinned to the steering wheel by the windshield, his chest pinched between the steering wheel and the seat. He couldn't move and couldn't breathe. Basically he was alive but suffocated to death due to positional asphyxia and inability to be extricated. He was already gone when we got on scene. Well, Dave was jumping around freaking out. Understandable. Several weeks later I ran into Dave at the local pharmacy. He was still freaked out, recounting the story, dwelling on it, etc.

    Don't be Dave!

    If you don't get back to baseline in the next couple days, immediately seek professional help from your MD or a specialist. THIS IS NOT A DRILL
    NH_Esau likes this.
    "Each worker carried his sword strapped to his side." Nehemiah 4:18

    Guns Save Lives. Paramedics Save Lives. But...
    Paramedics With Guns Scare People!

  6. #20
    Distinguished Member Array Burns's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Oshkosh, Wisconsin
    Posts
    1,330
    You did the right thing, a lot more than most people would do and you should feel very proud of yourself. I have also seen TERRIBLE motorcycle accidents where the riders were laying dead in the road before police even got there... It's not an easy sight to say the least. Please do go visit him if you feel up to it, I'm sure he could really use support right now.

    And bikers, WEAR YOUR HELMETS.
    Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable- JFK

  7. #21
    Ex Member Array Doodle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2011
    Location
    Tomball TX
    Posts
    948
    I admire your selflessness. I hope if ever I'm suddenly in that woman's place unexpectedly, someone like you won't let me go it alone.
    Spade115 likes this.

  8. #22
    Distinguished Member Array Stubborn's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2011
    Location
    Tampa Fl
    Posts
    1,530
    Quote Originally Posted by Spirit4earth View Post
    Her death will probably haunt you for a long time. I work in a very busy Level II Trauma Center ER. I've witnessed several deaths from various reasons, and all I can say is I think she had probably already left her body even before the last breath. You can sense that...and a hint of peace. You did the right thing, the courageous thing. I feel sure that she sensed your presence; this woman did not die alone because YOU were there. You gave her a gift, and ultimately you'll see that you, too, were given a gift. Take care, and sleep in peace.
    "Spirit" is right about this, it will stay with you a long time I'm sorry to say.
    I witnessed a wreck in 1976 just east of Indianapolis on I-70. A VW Beetle in front of me just drifted off the right side of the road and up a small embankment and rolled over several times on the way back down the hill. Two young (probably college age girls) were thrown out of the rolling car.
    One landed in the grass and the car rolled over her, the other hit the pavement on the shoulder of the road. When I got to her, her head was just cracked open like an egg.

    That's been almost 40 years since that happened and I can still see that girls face whenever that day comes to mind.

    "Paaiyan" I pray for you and your wife to have peace over this. I hope you will not be haunted by it too long, but sometimes the horrors of everyday life stay for long time.
    Burns likes this.
    "The beauty of the Second Amendment is that it will not be needed until they try to take it".
    Thomas Jefferson

    ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ

  9. #23
    Distinguished Member Array kapnketel's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Northern Kentucky
    Posts
    1,709
    You did all you could, but a I understand how the images in your mind are haunting you right now. Take it from personal experience, they will fade with time, but you never forget. Do not be ashamed to ask for help, is there EAP at your place of employment?
    I'd rather be lucky than good any day

    There's nothing that will change someone's moral outlook quicker than cash in large sums.

    Majority rule only works if you're also considering individual rights. Because you can't have five wolves and one sheep voting on what to have for supper.

  10. #24
    VIP Member Array paaiyan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Oklahoma
    Posts
    2,071
    EAP?
    My blog

    WARNING: This post may contain material offensive to those who lack wit, humor, common sense and/or supporting factual or anecdotal evidence. All statements and assertions contained herein may be subject to literary devices not limited to: irony, metaphor, allusion and dripping sarcasm.

  11. #25
    Distinguished Member Array Burns's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Oshkosh, Wisconsin
    Posts
    1,330
    Quote Originally Posted by paaiyan View Post
    EAP?
    Employee assistance program


    I know some people don't like help after seeing stuff like what you described, and it is completely up to you on how you deal with it, but remember we are always here for you.
    Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable- JFK

  12. #26
    VIP Member Array paaiyan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Oklahoma
    Posts
    2,071
    Yeah I don't think we have anything like that. I work for an IT company, so work isn't usually stressful enough to warrant that kind of help.
    My blog

    WARNING: This post may contain material offensive to those who lack wit, humor, common sense and/or supporting factual or anecdotal evidence. All statements and assertions contained herein may be subject to literary devices not limited to: irony, metaphor, allusion and dripping sarcasm.

  13. #27
    VIP Member Array paaiyan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Oklahoma
    Posts
    2,071
    Well, the rider was released from the hospital so visiting there isn't an option. I called the funeral service and they haven't scheduled the services for the deceased yet, but will forward cards and other things to the family. Definitely going to send something, not sure about attending services. Oh, but what to say....
    Burns and Spirit51 like this.
    My blog

    WARNING: This post may contain material offensive to those who lack wit, humor, common sense and/or supporting factual or anecdotal evidence. All statements and assertions contained herein may be subject to literary devices not limited to: irony, metaphor, allusion and dripping sarcasm.

  14. #28
    Member Array Billspider's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Location
    Holbrook, New York
    Posts
    148
    All I can say is thank God for the good people in this world like you and your wife.
    accessbob and Spade115 like this.

  15. #29
    Senior Member Array adric22's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Location
    Fort Worth, TX
    Posts
    1,146
    My wife has always wanted a motorcycle and I usually forbid it. Not only does she have no experience riding one, but she is a very aggressive driver while driving a regular car. I don't want to see something like that happen to her.

    One time I was going down the freeway doing 75 mph and was passed by a guy on a motorcycle doing a wheelie and he was going so fast it made me look like I was standing still. He must have been going well over 100 mph. Eventually traffic came to a stop and didn't move for a while. I could hear emergency vehicles in the distance. Eventually traffic started to move a little bit. When I finally passed the scene of the accident, I realized it was the idiot on the motorcycle that had caused the whole thing. there were body parts (arms, legs, etc) laying around and the main portion of the body was covered up. THere were bits of motorcycle parts laying everywhere too. However, I was never able to figure out what he impacted. There didn't appear to be any other cars involved in the accident.

    That is why I tend to call them "murdercycles."

    I actually wouldn't mind riding a motorcycle under certain conditions, such as a rural area in low-traffic areas at lower speeds. I used to have a Moped, as a matter of fact. But it wouldn't do more than 30 mph. But I just can't imagine riding a motorcycle in busy city traffic or on the highway.
    "Good people do not need laws to tell them to act responsibly, while bad people will find a way around the laws." -Plato

  16. #30
    Senior Member Array Spade115's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Texas
    Posts
    603
    I ride a motorcycle and have ridden with my girlfriend on the back ranging from 50-120 mph's Trying to over take someone who is trying to block me in (Live in "The Valley" Tx)

    We rarely wear helmets and have been considering wearing them more recently and god forbid but if were ever in an accident, I would like to know someone was there for the ol lady to see if she's ok (At least better then I)

    You did a good thing and nothing else you can really do.

    I tell people
    "When its your time it dosnt matter where your at or how fast you run"
    When life gives you lemons, Open a lemonaid buisness.

Page 2 of 3 FirstFirst 123 LastLast

Links

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  

Search tags for this page

hickery nc. motorcycle wreak kills 2people lsat night
,
i was there motorcycle crash kills woman in tulsa
,
motorcycle accident creek turnpike
,
motorcycle wreck creek turnpike
,
motorcycle wreck on creek turnpike
,
motorcycle wreck on creek turnpike tulsa
,
pics motorcycle wreck creek turnpike
,

skip sellers

,
skip sellers motorcycle
,

skip sellers motorcycle accident

,
skip sellers motorcycle crash
,
wrecks on creek turnpike
Click on a term to search for related topics.