This is kind of a long story, will keep it as short as possible and any suggestions on how to handle this situation or thoughts are well appreciated.
The Church where I attend has kind of a problem. A now-deceased member, great guy, couldn't have asked for anyone nicer has a step-son who apparently was a real piece of work. I never knew the guy, he went to our church many years ago while I was not attending.
His step dad was ill with diabetes and eventually lost the battle and died. His step-son, who was in the Navy had to get an emergency leave to come back and attend to his step-father's affairs or so we thought. Some of the men in the church went to his step father's house to help him get stuff that we thought he was entitled to via a will. Well, he wan't entitled to much, in fact he may have not been entitled at all. I found out recently that he just cleaned out the house, loaded up his step-dad's pick up with whatever he could get and just drove away.
We kind of lost contact with him, until a few months later when he came back, announced he had "retired" from the Navy and was going to be living here in Huntington. He didn't retire as we later learned, it was a less than honorable discharge or something to that effect. He showed up one Sunday morning after our early service and before the next one, and was wanting to talk specificially to one of our Parishioners who had been a member of our church for many years. I thouht it was odd, but knew he was a member long ago and figured he was just trying to reconnect.
Could not have been further from the truth. I was looking at our local newspaper web page and the "Grand Jury" indictments link just popped into my mind. Have no idea why, but I clicked the link and jokingly thought "I wonder if I know any of these people." Halfway down the list, I saw his name, indicted for Identity Theft. Needless to say I was a bit shocked, knowing he had been there previously asking for specific people to "talk" to.
The next Sunday, I alerted our Priest, told him what I had discovered. Apparently he had no knowledge, plus, this guy was hinting that the church somehow "owed" him money because of his step-father being a member. I don't know the details, but our Vestry told him that the church did not owe him anything. His step-dad, I found out later, had a fairly large life insurance death benefit that he wanted the church to have and his daughter was the beneficiary and delivered the check. I guess the step-son thought he was entitled to it. Who knows.
Fast forward to recently. He's come back and wanting to be a part of our Vestry, wanting to "help" the church, but all he is really doing is asking for stuff. He gives me the creeps and that funny feeling that he is up to no good. Hate to feel that way, but it's the truth.
My wife and I started doing some reseach, and we found that not only was he convicted for ID theft, but stolen credit cards, shop lifting, nighttime burglary and was considered a Felon. However, he also sold a 9mm pistol to an undercover BTAF agent along with morphine and oxycondone. This guy is bad news from the get go. He was convicted for the gun charge only, we think he may have rolled over on bigger people, because he only recieved 6 months of home confinement for his crimes.
My problem now is that we have a guy who seems to be not wanting to come to church for "church" but what he thinks is "owed" to him. We don't owe him a penny, period, but knowing what I do about him gives me the feeling he may do something dangerous should we have to eventually confront him about his past and why he is really coming to church. We have quietly told people in our Congregation and to keep it under wraps and watch this guy carefully.
So, whatever thoughts any of you have, will be welcome.