I think you spelled "ye old" wrong. Isn't it "ye olde"?
I figure I'd reply since nobody has, yet.
My girlfriend and I are friends with Cupsz71 and his wife. His wife now "gets it", it seems. My girlfriend, not so much. My girlfriend says "that wouldn't happen around here". I used to think that, too. Cupsz71's wife used to think that, too. Until some dipstick decided to off himself whilst running from the cops a mere four rows away from Cupsz71's house!
I've read on this forum that sometimes it takes this kind of incident to make people "get it". I decided a while back not to wait for "my incident". My girlfriend (and many other friends of mine) unfortunately, are waiting for their incident like they're waiting for a bus they think is never gonna come. It'll come. It'll just be bearing down at you from the other direction.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it! (And I don't think I'm going to have any of Cupsz71's coffee. )