Old age, step-parenthood and trust (rant)
Well there's a shooting aspect here but - thought best to post on this forum. It is a bit of a rant I suppose.
All this thought we (inevitably) have right now, re greater awareness of possible SD needs, got me to thinking of family members ''helping out'' in a crisis. Sad to say I probably have to make one exclusion. Remember, this is an ole phart wrting this! :silly:
My wife is well versed in shooting, at least very adequate to be proficient and effective with her familiar platforms (revo and AK!). My step-daughter (yep - CCM cover girl :smile:) needs some more range time but has a great (as well as pretty) head on her shoulders - I can trust her (she is 20 plus).
Now the rub - my step-son, is approaching 18 but is sadly IMO in ''punk'' category. His mother is well younger than me and so this is why I still have step-kids at home.... and with all her past woes and hassles did a pretty darned good job on the kids.
The boy tho has so many traits that make trust all but impossible (for me). I took him and a buddy to range a year or so ago - gave them a lot of education and practical experience but - would not trust him with a gun. Not so much that he can't use one effectively - heck he was hunting with his own Dad probably before out of diapers!
No - it is the fact that I cannot feel enough trust regarding reliability - meaning I guess decision-making etc. Would he be responsible under pressure - or feel it was all a game! My mistrust is due actually to many things folks might regard as minor - but he runs around with a cousin who is doing drugs at times, tho he swears he does not. He is asked to do stuff at home but rarely remembers (you know the stuff - if it ain't for him it don't matter!).
He wears his pants almost round his knees, all but shaves head (a thing I have with some young guys - may just be me seeing the ''neo-nazi'' look!) - and seems to think money grows on trees - etc, etc .... bottom line, he has a car, pleases himself plenty and IMO should be taking responsibity for his life - we are not the perpetual nipple and will not be so.
I could ramble on at great length and bore you folks rigid but anways - it is sad that I feel this lack of trust. I need to see some sign of responsibility and respect for others - not this apparent life of playing. He has potential, even I admit that but of course step-parenting is something that is often tricky - it is for me.
Over next year or so in his 13th grade, he needs to remove his cranium from out his fundamental orifice - and get things together. Nothing would please me more than that he ''see the light'', and perhaps then I could train him up to shoot well, as well as trust his judgement - no harm in hoping.
Sorry about my ''tangle length'' post (Hehe - just kiddin tangle :wink: )