Middle aged dating/relationship advice needed

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    Hey, look on the bright side: at least you guys can converse and you have things in common. Talking and getting along is one of the big hurdles in any long term relationship. My wife and I were best friends before we got married, and that has kept us out of divorce court due to the fact that we have seen each other at our best and at our worst.....

    So just be yourself and give it time - remember, it takes a lifetime to build a successful relationship, like a marriage. You build, and keep building as long as you are together....
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    If the chemistry isn't there, it is ok to be friends. I have a good friend who I've never been physically attracted to, even though she is definitely above average in looks, has common interests with me, an interesting personality and a great sense of humor.

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    Quote Originally Posted by retsupt99 View Post

    Many of my/our friends, however, have been in your situation...I can only advise...be yourself, go slow, and don't judge a book by its cover.

    Let nature takes its course...as far as looks go...beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that's a two-way street.

    Good luck in your search.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rock and Glock View Post
    Look into her eyes. That's the story.
    eyes or thighs? Typo?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mr.stuart View Post
    Your post sounds like that of a kind and thoughtful man. Why not swap pictures through email? I am 50 and married 7 years to my 4th wife.We met online. She is the one I wish I had met first. One thing you should keep in mind, when you get in your 40's,the statistics tell us we have,what,25 to 35 years left? Do what is right for you! Time moves so fast.If you meet someone and there is not a mutual attraction,do not waste time.
    I try to be kind and thoughtful. That to me is up there with honesty above all things. I have no pictures of myself to give her. I felt it wasn't fair to swap pics if I had none to swap. I also feared that a picture might cause me to prematurely lose interest in someone I might actually really care for.

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    Does she have children?How old? Crazy ex-husband? Run an online background check(these are not always complete). I would not hesitate to ask questions of someone I might become involved with. I wish you the best in the dating scene. Be honest and up-front. Adults do not play games. I hope all this makes sense, I know so much about this subject I tend to blurt things out.Best wishes.
    She is 42yo, I am 46. She has three children, one is married with her own children, her son just joined the military and her youngest daughter is in college. All of her children will be out of the house by the end of the year. She has been married before. Her first was at a real young age and ended quickly. Second was an abuser and ended quickly and the third was a great relationship and lasted over 10 years. He died of a liver disease not related to alcohol.

    I have no info to run a background check and honestly, I don't think I would do it if I did have the info. I want to trust her at her word and if its false, I will instantly have my answer. No BG check needed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dukalmighty View Post
    Don't walk up and ask her how she likes her eggs in the morning,poached,fried,or fertilised


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    Quote Originally Posted by george ries View Post
    get a young hottie
    I'll repeat myself from another thread.. Easier said then done,.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dnowell View Post
    I'm a heck of a lot younger, but my vote goes for: play out the date and be friendly, but if it's not happening don't pretend it will. But - don't drop the bomb during the date -- do it by phone another time or even better find an excuse for why you're incompatible, that doesn't put it on her.
    I agree. And remember, it's only been a week.
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    The very first thing to remember is that you have to first be friends before you can even pursue an "emotional or physical relationship". Sounds like you have enough in common to talk on the phone three nights so hence a friendship is starting.

    I think the worse thing that we do when thinking about meeting someone is building it up in expectation before meeting them. We kinda set ourselves up to be disappointed. The one thing that I see over and over in my friends meeting people is that 1. we might not be a "barbie" or a "ken" but when we are meeting somone we thing they should be. 2. that the faults in others are more defined than our own. and 3. that we put the cart before the horse when meeting someone, where we have already worked out in our mind what that person should be instead of letting them be what they are.

    GOOD LUCK and remember our "friends" come in all kinds of packages.
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    Been there, done, that, bought the t shirt. I was divorced in 1982, and had several short term relationships over the next decade or so. I got into computers around 1995, and started going online. In 1998, I met a few people on line, that I met with later. One wasn't someone that I was interested in, but we have remained friends. Another one, we just didn't connect, and never pursued anything. Later that year, I met a girl on line that was very nice. We communicated for 4 months by email and phone, and she finally came to visit. We hit it off from the beginning, and we started alternating weekends travelling. She would come to Vegas, the next week I would go to San Jose. In 2000, I moved to San Jose to be with her full time, and we were married in 2002. Been together since the first meeting. So, it can work. Just meet her, with no expectations, and try to enjoy yourself. If you want to pursue things, great, if no, also great.

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