This is a discussion on In court today within the Off Topic & Humor Discussion forums, part of the The Back Porch category; My ex-mom in law did that. Always went for the abuser. Not so much physical, but mental abuse. Always told by ex husbands and boy ...
My ex-mom in law did that. Always went for the abuser. Not so much physical, but mental abuse. Always told by ex husbands and boy friends that she was stupid and not worthy of anything except them and the abuse. She finally broke free of the cycle, found a wonderful man and has been happily married for many years now.
Too bad this happens. Some women are kind of programmed in early life, especially by a domineering father to allow men to control them. They see dad doing that to mom and just end up finding a guy just like daddy.
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The sad thing is that our society keeps telling women that all they need to protect themselves is a restraining order. There are too many stories in the news of men totaly ignoring them and killing someone for anyone to believe they are any good. Until we start arming and training these women, how do we expect them to act any differently? Our police do not have the manpower to protect these women and the perpatrators too often end up back on the street within hours. The victims can hide in shelters only for a short period. Many of these women would have to live in fear for the rest of their lives even if they move away and try to start over.
Like everyone said same ole sane ole, but In my county & sorrounding conties Tf someone calls a DV singnal (88) sombody is going to JAIL preiod,They are tired of IT!!
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Yeah, it does make sense, in a sad way: I'll try to explain by way of analogy: I call it my "running shoe theory"Eagleks Don't get me started on this subject.....
Don't try to figure it out..... it makes no sense.
A running shoe is composed of 3 basic parts: (1) carbon rubber outsole (the part that hits the road); (2) the mid-sole (the soft, spongy foam that absorbs the shock of your foot hitting the road); and (3) the upper (this is the part that wraps around your foot). Your average running shoe, by the time you put 500 miles on them, has lost 75% of its actual shock absorbancy, BUT, and this is important, the outersole shows very little wear, and the shoes still look really good and they are well broken in and they feel "VERY COMFOTABLE". So, while they look good, and feel comfortable, they actually DAMAGE you with every step you take, because the mid-sole has had the crap pounded out of it and it transmits most the shock of impact straight to your knees
OK--so, in real life, what we often grow up with, we learn to feel comfortable with You grow up in a home that is abusive towards women (either overtly or with covert abusive attitudes) and that is what FEELS COMFORTABLE. If you meet somebody who treats you nicely, it just feels wrong and "not right." I have had a LOT of women clients over the years who, in looking back, see that they had at least one guy interested in them, who was actually a nice guy, but they dumped him and moved on to a jerk, because being treated nicely made them feel "funny." (cognitive dissonance is the technical term), they universally looked back on this move with saddness.
Now, this is an over-simmplification of a very complex process, but I thik it does explain some of the more puzzling dynamics we see in these types of relationships. My hat is off to all those folks who have taken the hard road of looking at themselves and have chosen the hard road of emotional growth and confronting the skeletons in their closets.
Hope this analogy helps some..........
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What would be an idea would to have a SOP established for LE to give a blank Obituary form to all of the DV victims who decide to go back to the spineless pieces of s##t. This would help out because of the inevitable. Then maybe they would think and then that might not even phase them. It's a very sad situation.
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It all starts in the home. We need licenses to drive, carry, build a house, etc, but any two fools can have kids .
When asked why she struck me, she replied, "I just wanted him to stop hitting me, I didn't want him to leave, he's the father of my children"
I was not a happy camper that day.
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And she'll do it again and again.... Sad for sure that any women feels the need to cover something like that for a (I cannot use words I'd like to) guy..
Some of you may recall a story I posted a while ago about a lady who's husband beat her so badly he put her in a coma for 3 weeks. She woke up in the ICU still wanted to drop charges against him. The DA disregarded her request and prosecuted regardless of her objections. The wife was even a "defense witness" FOR her husband. She claimed that he hit her because "she pushed his buttons" and deserved the abuse.
I wonder what happened to her since this happened? This case always comes to mind when I hear about domestic abuse cases. I'm told that the husband received a prison sentence for this case as well.
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This 'story' has millions of copies...
Even if this woman leaves THIS guy, she'll probably find another abusive partner...they almost always do.
I just turn my head to situations like this...nothing one can do.
My only concern would be for children who have to live with the kind of crap...and I see the product of these situatons every day in school.
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In Kansas I believe the DA will take up the case regardless of the victim's willingness to cooperate or press charges. The police testify on her behalf on what they saw and photographed.