mutumbo, You beat me by 1. I have four and they don't come out!!!!
Mutumbo, it sounded to me that Jca1 was upset that the "ladies" at the funeral were dressing VERY immodestly, and the "gents" were slovenly. Someone mentioned a shirt with a pot leaf on it. Come on, really? That seems out of place. I don't think a Brooks Brothers suit is the dress code, but a pot leaf, or tiny skirts/booty shorts at a funeral?
I can't help it, it still seems disrespectful to me. I guess there's a place and a time for everything, but the above at funeral doesn't seem to be the appropriate place/time. I realize that's just me, and it may be intolerant. It's still how I feel.
Tats (I have 4) and facial piercings don't quite fit in that category to me. Personally, it's self-expression/art/what have you. (Let's not say it's the same as a pot shirt and Daisy dukes please.) Obviously you can't remove a tattoo, but who would want you to, it's a part of your body. Same with the piercings, I think.
Now, if the Tattoo was obscene, or said something hate-filled (NOT that yours does, I'm just wildly theorizing here) then maybe the polite thing to do would be to cover it up when at a funeral or something, but that's probably a whole other debate.
It doesn't matter if you don't like "love stories." It doesn't matter if you think "love stories" are trash. It is the PERSON and not the clothes or appearance that counts. Or, to use your analogy, it is the moral behind the story in the book and not the cover that is important.
I respect GREATLY your restraint in not turning this thread into a "you bashed me first" thread.
This is sad.... it's happening all over the country. I guess there are always people out there that just don't care. No matter where you live.
I was at our local mall about 2 weeks ago and was just astounded how parents let their "young ladies" dress. The sad thing was...the mothers/fathers we're right there with them walking along like it was "cute". If I have a daughter she wouldn't leave the house let alone her room looking like some of the girls that dress in today's society.
You make sense... Just not everyone agrees with your point of view. And now I'm going to put into my will that I want people to be themselves. They didn't change for me in my life and I'll be damn if I want them to do it when I'm dead. Prop me up in a corner, have a party, celebrate my *life* and put me away. BYOB and dress optional!
Love my mother.... her sister's are snobbish bitches who are terribly anti and I don't mean guns.. They are anti everything.
My one Catholic aunt told me to go to hell when I pointed out her "christian" hypocrisy and another who told me I wasn't really atheist, I just wanted attention.
****please note that I don't believe all Christian's are hypocrites. She is and proved my point when she said "go to hell". I thanked her and told her that was incredibly Christian of her, which earned me another.
I told both my kids..... you try to bury me in some suit... (since I've had to wear them most of my life @ work)... I will come back and haunt you forever. I don't care what they wear.
I've seen it both ways. I don't get hung up on what anyone else is wearing, that's their issue.
Even though I am a non-believer, I do have occasion to go to churches and I most certainly respect the people there and myself enough to dress and behave properly for the occasion. There is a time and a place for everything . Like the proverb says, "When in Rome". It's not about more ,or less ,than good manners . It shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone that more formal dress is expected at some occasions than others.
No booing the preacher or making faces.
I don't want a funeral with crying and sad faces. I want a party ,and for people to take an extra day off to go fishing !
This is my personal rule....
If I have to wear a tie to work (requirement of work) then if I am in a situation where respect is important (funeral, church, etc,) then I will wear clothes equal to or better than what I wear to work. (Meaning at least a tie.)
If people are used to seeing me in a tie (showing respect for my employers) then I want to show AT LEAST that amount of respect in my clothing (and actions) in situations that show respect.
If I can do it for work, I should be able to do it for a good friend that may have passed away or to show respect in Church.
If you saw Gran Torino, I was definitelty with Clint in that early Church scene.