Please tell me there are more fish in the sea
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So lets just say that I have been ...
August 31st, 2009 09:32 AM
Please tell me there are more fish in the sea
OK, this maybe off topic, if so, mods please move, I just need to vent a bit.
So lets just say that I have been single for going on 6 years. Its driving me nuts.
I finally start talking to a women, everything is nearly perfect about her and then we get onto a hot topic with her. She is a Here is her response when asked about her thoughts on firearms, this is cut and paste from the conversation:
"I guess I am just not understanding the need to carry a loaded gun around with you. The chances of needing it are almost zero. So why bother? "
I of course respond with:
"its just like carrying mace, wearing a seatbelt, and having a smoke detector. you may never need mace, may never be in a car wreck, in my 31 years of living, never had a fire in a house, they are just all tools for a specific job."
She is also strong on the no guns in her home or around her children. I can respect her wishes but then she goes onto the "I guess there would be disagreements if it got to the point of living together"
So please tell me there are more fish in the sea. I jokingly asked her if I had her last name correct because I would not date someone with the last name of Brady, she sorta did not laugh.
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August 31st, 2009 09:58 AM
I was where you are now. No luck at one time so I gave up. Shortly after I gave up I met a nice young woman who later became my wife. I'm not saying give up because each person is different maybe you should try another fishing hole to cast your line. By the way I met her while working an armed security post so she knew I carried a gun on the job and had them at home. They are out there.
August 31st, 2009 09:59 AM
Huh? The chances are almost zero? In Ohio? On this planet? Why bother?
Originally Posted by justherenow
Uhm, well, one it's not a "bother" to me, and two, I like being alive.
Tell her you bother because there are people like her that "don't bother", and you care about your personal safety and hers, and the children.
Some sheep are just blind to things around them and think the whole world is safe place, it will never happen to them.
Either convince this girl that it can happen or move on. Yes there are other fish in the sea, some that actually understand.
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August 31st, 2009 10:11 AM
Most people are anti-gun, only because they've bought into all the phony propaganda that groups like the Brady Campaign put out there. Unfortunately, much of the media spews out the same paranoid, anti-gun, liberal BS. I believe her opinion would change if she was shown the truth.
Here's a nice place to start: NRA-ILA :: Firearm Fact Card 2008
Plus, educate her about things like the real Katrina, where the government basically collapsed. Gun confiscation followed, and then the gangs ran roughshod over everyone. Then tell her that laws have actually been passed to prevent this type of gun seizure.
As you say, guns are a tool. Hopefully never truly needed.
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August 31st, 2009 10:24 AM
I've been married for 26 (?) years. When I met my wife, I told her right up front ... "I smoke, I drink, I hunt and I fish". Way back then she said she understood all of this but when it actually came down to it, she would rather I was spending time with her. Now after all these years married, we are doing these things together. I got lucky (I think) but I was upfront about my life's endeavors and she now enjoy's them as much as I do.
Search for other fish or train the one you have, only you can choose. Good luck.
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August 31st, 2009 10:35 AM
I too had given up. I was on a three year dry spell. The most wonderful woman I have ever met in my life....wandered in to my path and we are getting married next June. They are out there. Did I mention she is a member here and loves hunting and fishing and shooting? Trust me stick with it. The right one will pop up.
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August 31st, 2009 11:02 AM
RUN!!!!!! It doesn't even sound like you found a good fish, more like a carp or some other junk eating fish.
August 31st, 2009 11:17 AM
Indeed, there are other fish in the sea. The problem I had was once I found them, I discovered they were already taken by the likes of you.
Marriage is tough enough. You really don't need to be fighting over this all the time. OTOH, I have heard many a story of the woman ultimately being brought over to the light side. Keep looking and patience my young Jedi.
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August 31st, 2009 12:59 PM
Take her shooting. Start out with a .22 rifle, then maybe a .22 pistol, then work her up. Let her get comfortable with them.
If she refuses even to participate in a day at the range, well you got some serious thinking to do.
Just remember that shot placement is much more important with what you carry than how big a bang you get with each trigger pull.
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August 31st, 2009 01:59 PM
Based on all the stories of woe that I've read, I wouldn't marry someone hoping that the problems will go away. If this is going to be an insurmountable barrier, then better to find out now before you make any vows.
I wouldn't give up just yet. She needs convincing that carrying a gun is an act of personal responsibility to protect your life and your loved ones. Is she going to be useless in an emergency, or a partner that you can rely on to watch your back?
These sites might give her some perspective:
Civilian Gun Self-Defense Blog
You have friends here that will listen to you however it turns out. Best of luck to you.
August 31st, 2009 02:28 PM
Lot's of great advice in them posts..
I know what your going through.. It has been close to five years that I've been single and the older we get the harder it is,.. But being with the wrong person is worse then being single.. "Hell hath no fury, like a women scorn".... Proverbs something.. :-)
August 31st, 2009 02:49 PM
August 31st, 2009 02:50 PM
Also the Dr. Suzanna Gratia Hupp video may help... from another woman's view.
Originally Posted by larefugee
August 31st, 2009 03:38 PM
Since your in Ohio, id be more then happy to meet up with ya, and relay the story of how my wife and I were shot by a total stranger for no apparent reason at all, and we'll both show her our wound scars
Originally Posted by justherenow
Whats more, that night it happened, there were two other shootings in the same suburban area.
Id have to say, that if I were ever looking again, my dating pool narrowed a bit since I took up firearms.
My wife didn't want any part of any guns, especially after we got shot. She was instilled with the fear of guns her mother passed down to her. However, I was able to use them as a tool to get her over her fears of them as a result of what happened, and she got her CCP. It made me very proud of her.
I hope it doesn't require that for her. Hopefully you can talk her into it.
August 31st, 2009 03:46 PM
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