NEED HELP with a Bully situation please.
No joke, here's what happened this week:
Tuesday during school, Bunny Jr. (H) caught a classmate (D) stealing from the teacher. H tells teacher, B decides he needs to be taught a lesson.
While on line for lunch, D tells all the kids H likes a Britney Spears song, so that means H is a big gay girl. All the kids laugh, H shrugs it off.
After school on the school bus, D starts the whole "H is a big gay girl" thing and starts getting his hands in H's face but does not strike. H slaps D's hand out of his face so that D can not hit him in the face, and that's when D punches H in the ribs. H comes home with a small, fist-shaped mark on his rib cage.
At this point I should mention a few things:
1) D is in H's class, on his bus, and lives in our neighborhood.
2) H is a skinny kid with glasses, and an honor roll student, D is big and not honor roll material. D also lost his father a year or two ago and lives alone with his mother, as his 2 older siblings are in the Marines.
3) Both boys are 10 years old.
I did NOT report this on Tuesday because of two reasons. First, everyone has a bad day. Once, it's a bad thing. But twice, it's a pattern and I will get involved. Still, everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt, right? Also, we have always taught H that you NEVER STRIKE FIRST but of someone else attacks you and starts s....stuff, then you DEFEND YOURSELF and you finish it. And technically he struck first by slapping D's hand away.
Wednesday, all was quiet on the 5th grade front.
TODAY was bad. Capital B.
Today, D started on the bus again and threatened to beat up H. He came over, got all up in H's face, and H punched him in the rib cage and then kicked him in the kibbles-n-bits. D doubles over, crying, calls H a "wussy." H laughs and goes "really? Who's crying and who didn't take a hit?"
D THEN SAYS HIS BROTHER AND SISTER ARE IN THE MARINES AND THEY HAVE TRAINED HIM, AND HE IS GOING TO GET THEIR AK-47 AND SHOOT H.
H counters with "who cares? My mom is a firearms instructor and has two pistols."
D says "well a full auto AK-47 beats 2 pistols. And I'm coming over to your house at 3 today."
Nobody showed up.
Tonight was PTA night. I had a talk w. the teacher, she said to tell the Principal and if the Principal does not make a report, SHE will.
I talk to the principal, who talks to H and she takes a bunch of notes. I believe she is filing a report. She was pretty upset because D was communicating a threat, and that is NOT ok. She said she will "take care of it" and also talk to both boys and give them tools to de-escalate and ignore each other.
I was given advice by two LEO friends to call my local PD and get someone out to take a report. That way, local PD will go to D's mom and talk to her (not me. I don't know if she's normal or psycho, and despite my best efforts, I don't know that it won't turn into a shouting match, you know? I might be calm and rational, but look at the monster SHE raised, maybe she's nuts? Maybe she carries? Maybe she'll try and kick my butt or shoot me?). And also this way it will be on record so that if H does have to defend himself and ends up hurting D, it won't be that H is the bully, there will be a record of D's threats against H.
So let me ask you. H is my one and only kid, and I didn't quite go through this as a child. HOW WOULD YOU HANDLE THIS SITUATION? Am I being an idiot, calling the PD? I really don't like drama, but as someone else pointed out, I also don't want to sit at my kid's hospital bedside, asking "why didn't I get more involved."
Note, we have a zero-tolerance policy here. Even if D starts it, if H swings back, they will BOTH get suspended or expelled.
What should I do?