This is a discussion on Response to wife within the Off Topic & Humor Discussion forums, part of the The Back Porch category; I think it's a good idea for your significant other to know where they are and how to use them. Adults only of course. My ...
I think it's a good idea for your significant other to know where they are and how to use them. Adults only of course. My wife knows the location of her CCW and where the HD shotguns are. She knows how to operate all of them. The only exception is my EDC's. She's not real familiar with my 1911's but knows how to operate the safety and pull the trigger if need be. We have no kids and all guns are stowed, out of visitors sight. It's better to be safe than sorry.
"Government is not the solution to our problem; government IS the problem". - Ronald Reagan 1981
Yup my wife is my best friend, life partner, etc. But I stand by the statement I made to her when we were dating. "I own guns and fishing gear, how many and how much is not your concern. You will never want because of my gear" Then I went out and bought her an engagement ring that exceeded the cost of all my stuff. Anytime she snopes, I point to her hand. End of story.
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If someone asked me how many guns I own, I honestly could say "I don't know". My next response would be: "Are you counting handguns only? Or does that include rifles and shotguns?"
I'd have to go count them.
Just a word of caution: If your wife is asking how many guns you have, I'm fairly certain she has an ulterior motive.
"I'm not fluent in the language of violence, but I know enough to get around in places where it's spoken."
I'd probably say something like, "I don't know. But if you'd like, I'll be happy to show them all to you, and explain how they work, and see which ones you'd like to shoot. Maybe we can find a couple you'd like to carry."
I'm pretty sure she would NEVER bring up the subject again of how many guns I own.
I don't think she wants to know. I haven't even been keeping track. I counted them the other day and I was flabbergasted. (But I couldn't pin the number down now exactly, so I could honestly answer, "I don't know.")
I don't have that problem!! I made sure that my wife fired every one of them. In return she made sure I fired all of hers...she has more than me after her last trip to town. :(
Enough to cover the basics but I still need to fill in a few niches.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
"Each worker carried his sword strapped to his side." Nehemiah 4:18
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I bought most of mine during the 18 years between marriages; when we got married I made her a vow, that I would never have more guns than she has pairs of shoes (she IS into shoes), after 12 years of marriage I still have margin to spare. She has a shoe rack around the entire bottom of HER 8X10 walk in closet plus the back of the door FULL.
About a year ago she came into living room and announced she had thrown away 2 old pair and she needed to go shopping to fill in the rack. I asked if I should go count the empty slots in the gun safe, she passed. Two can play that game
When I buy a new gun I tell her, she is the easiest woman to get along with I have ever met; if she were any easier to get along with I would have to be queer 'cause she'd be a man
I have a buddy who after he got married would bring a gun home and his wife would ask "Where did you get that one?" His answer was "Oh, I've had this a long time, it was still over at mom & dad's."
After 4 of those she said "Why don't you just go ahead and bring ALL your guns home NOW!" So much for that dodge.
My wife is one of the worst (tic for tac) ladies I have ever met. For the most part it's never a problem cause I have always wanted to give her what ever I can and will always feel that way, but she's used the "You bought a new truck, so I want this or that" in the past and knows it works pretty well, so what can I say, she's right.
I kinda brought it on myself I guess. I called her up on afternoon and ask her if she wanted a new car. She said no, I have a car that I like, why? I said no reason, and went out and bought a new Silverado 4X4. Yeah, that didn't go over that well, but I bet the next time I ask her a question like that, she'll have a better answer next time.
I trust my young bride with my life. I certainly trust her enough to tell her anything about any property I may own -- after all, it's her property, too (Texas is a community property state).
I guess the real question that comes to mind is, why do you have to keep secrets from her? Do you fear that she will disapprove and not give you permission to own any more guns? Have you made purchases with money you should have used for some other agreed-upon purpose? Are you deceiving her about how much you spend on personal possessions? And finally, how would you feel if you asked her a similar question, and she avoided answering or failed to answer truthfully?
Sounds like you just don't trust her.
"We're paratroopers. We're supposed to be surrounded!" Dick Winters
By the way, for you non-New Yorkers, you'll love this one.
By state law, if a spouse passes away, or otherwise becomes incapacitated, the surviving spouse cannot take possesion of the first spouse's weapons (handguns). They must be turned over to the sheriff within 10 or 15 days, and then sold or otherwise be legally disposed of.
The only exception to this is if the spouse get's his/her own permit, and cross-references the handguns so that they appear on both permits! (NY Law states that all handguns owned must be individually listed on your permit).
"Democracy is two wolves and a lamb voting on what to have for lunch; Liberty is a well-armed lamb contesting the vote."
-- Benjamin Franklin
We each have allowances and I don't give a hoot what she buys with hers and I feel I deserve the same.
"secrets" Hell, I keep secrets all the time from any and everybody, and I pretty good at it. Never been made in 20 + years of CC, just one among my many survival skills.
When it comes to the things that effect our lives as a whole, we're there together, and god help the fool that tries to alter that, but as I said, we each have our own hobbies and things that the other one doesn't really enjoy, and I can see nothing wrong with that. I mean we're not talking about infidelity or anything remotely close to a unhappy marriage.
It really sounds like you're looking for support for doing something that you were already a bit uncomfortable with, yourself. You obviously had doubts about whether or not you should have answered your wife in an open and truthful manner, and you're worried that the the truthful answer would cause "bickering", "yelling", and "arguing". So, there are issues the two of you need to work out. You know you're doing something she doesn't like, so you keep it secret, justified as a "don't ask, don't tell" policy.
Your wife cared enough to ask you how many guns you have in the house, but you don't think she needs to know. If my wife asked a straight question, I'd give her a straight answer. If I can trust her with the big stuff, I can trust her with the little stuff. She decides what's important to her, not me.
However you choose to define "trust" in your marriage is entirely up to you. I've got no dog in this hunt. But you, after all, are the one who had the question about whether you did right or wrong.
Best of luck to you. Hope things work out.
"We're paratroopers. We're supposed to be surrounded!" Dick Winters