Diss or No-Dis

[HiFreq47]

This one is simple:

Historically, if you've succumbed to you're wife's wishes and given her something she really wants, she's given you a kiss on your cheek.

One morning, during your commute to work (you commute with your wife), the two of you discuss an upcoming renovation and the two of you have differing opinions on the type of tile to use in a shower. With 10 minutes to go before you drop her off, you ask her one more time, "Are we definitely going to go with subway tiles?" She says, "I really like them."

You leave the conversation as it is, you don't say another word, you just continue the remaining 10 minutes down the road listening to the radio.

You get to her building, stop, and as the two of you lean close for your daily kiss-before-work, you smirk and turn and your head to side presenting your cheek to her.

Simple question - did you just insult her?

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[joker1]

You may never truly know...

joker1

[WHEC724]

Who knows? I wouldn't live long enough to find out.

[monk]

I put yes because that was the closest I could get to the truth.
I think what is really going though her head at this point is she starting to become worried that you're going to start using her tactics.

[Spade115]

Honestly and truthfully, yes.

Because that is a norm for the both of you and you turning your head is like saying "I dont care, its YOUR bathroom" which would be taken as an insult. From all the girls I know, I would tread carefully when you get home.

[BlueNinjaGo]

Honestly.... NEVER APPLY LOGIC WITH A WOMAN!

I've gotten in the dog house for the most outrageous things. If she's feeling insecure that day, and I make a comment about the super model on the news... BAM. Huge insult. Any other day she wouldn't care. I can't count the times she's admitted that she felt hurt or insulted for absolutely no reason.

[PastorPack]

Rule of Marriage #58: If you have to ask on an internet forum if you've insulted your wife, you had better bring home flowers and the Subway tile!

[jca1]

You insulted her slightly, but dissed yourself greatly. Just wait til tonight...you'll see.

[cammo]

If you are doing a rennovation, this incident will look like small potatoes by the time you are done.

Did you diss her? I don't think so. Skin needs to thicken during selections and install. Your comment to her was imply-ing that she would have the final decision. Her saying "I really like them" means, yes, we are going with them, unless you throw a big fit, then we won't get them but I will sulk about it for a very long time.

One thing about subways in a shower, there is a bigger grout to tile ratio, so therefore they might be a bigger cleaning problem. We put large format tiles in ours to make it easier to clean. I used the smaller tiles on backsplashes.

All joking aside about the remodel thing, it can be very trying. There is a no man's land where so much comprimise is made on both sides that what you get is not what she wants OR what you want because so much muddying of a vision has been done. Try not to get there.

Good luck.

[pfcslr]

Is she reacting as if you did? If yes then you did. If not it will haunt you in the future. At least that is my experience.





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[Patti]

As long as your wife gets the tile she wants, she won't care if you insulted her or not.

She knows you'll get over it.

[ccw9mm]

If something's done "with a smirk" or with that in mind, it probably is, at least a little.

[cammo]

As long as your wife gets the tile she wants, she won't care if you insulted her or not.

EXACTLY.

[Pure Kustom]

Women are evil...............Sleep with one eye open tonight. Or you might get hit with the subway tile!!!

Being married it seems like you haven't remembered the #1 rule. Your man cave is the garage, nothing else. If your lucky you can make it the way you want. The rest of the house is for her enjoyment and your use from time to time. Tread softly.

[IronMike]

Since the woman is the one doing the cleaning,make sure it will be a tile she will not mind scrubbing.