I understand your argument and where you are coming from, but I think it lacks a little....common-sense (with all due respect, truly).
First of all, most of what you stated above could land you a disorderly conduct/disturbing the peace charge.
Say I am at Chucky Cheese with my kids playing. Another parent looses his cool because of all the excitement and loud noises, and starts cussing at the kids to "pipe down". Cop just happens to be there because he likes to see all the lights (from withdraw of not using his own dash lights) and comes over to tell the man to change his choice of words because he may tick off some customers. Are you saying that the cop is out of line here?
The store manager didn't call him, he was there getting his "flash fix", neither did a concerned citizen. Would this be a just encounter?
Another example, woman leaves a bikini show in downtown Atlanta. It's night time and very warm. She decides to go to the local 24hr tanning bed in the shady part of town because it's cheaper. She decides not to change and goes right in her bikini. She is seen by a cop walking down the street, cop pulls up and says,
"Mam, you are asking for trouble walking down the street in an outfit like that, in this part of town. Someone is likely to try to take advantage of you or rape you, or you may cause an accident. I suggest you put something on". Again, would the officer's opinion here be out of line too?
The man has the right to free speech, the woman has a right to wear what she wants and go where she wants. These may seem extreme, but to the general population who are not gun enthusiast, so is a man with a gun on his hip in a public park. Believe it or not, situations like the two above happen all the time with varied details, minus the cop getting a "flash fix".
A person who is concerned about their safety/security, must try to be aware of their surroundings. As gun owners in this mindset, we try to see behavioral indicators to asses a threat that is being exposed to us. We must respond to the escalation before we are caught off guard and made a victim. This also includes us being conscious of our own behavior and how it is perceived, so that it does not contribute to the escalation. If time allows, always try to defuse, before having to pull the trigger as a last resort. Why because we choose to OC, does this same awareness not have a place?