A couple friends and I had a Wii Tennis & Jenga night (don't ask heh) and I arrived shortly after going to a restaurant for dinner with another friend. I usually always CC, but was forced to OC due to VA's alcohol CC laws. I had an IWB, but forgot to untuck my shirt after dinner, and figured it wouldn't be a problem since most of my friends knew I CC'ed anyways (telling them, they'd never know when I CC'ed unless they asked, and even then I might not be willing to tell them). I hadn't realized I wasn't covered until a friend of mine asked me why I had a gun on my side (I was there for about 30 minutes before anybody really noticed), and the expected question followed. "Why do you need a gun?" That was easy to "defend" (as if I need a defense to excercise my 2nd amendment rights), and the open and healthy debate amongst friends was refreshing and fun. Then I got stumped...
"Don't you think, that by carrying a gun, you put the people (your friends) around you at greater risk should you, lose control of your gun (to a BG), or should a situation arise, escalate the situation by having another gun present (either by drawing, or being discovered by the BG)?"
The first part was somewhat defended by my statement that I choose to CC most of the time unless I legally can't (VA alcohol crap craps ugh.), so being a target of a snatch or being singled out as the first target in a holdup/etc. shouldn't be a concern. The second part was a lot harder, and I don't think I ever truly gave any answers that really satisfied myself.
I carry to protect myself, and the people I hold dear to me, but should I find myself in a situation, I don't know if I would feel right risking the lives of my friends (family? they don't know I CC yet) especially when it's against some of their wishes. In terms of a worst case scenario, I would pull to save my life or a friend's in dire need, but it's hard to rationalize a defense against the worst case scenario where I live to subdue the BG with appropriate force, only to find out that before, or shortly after, that he has fatally wounded the 3rd party present. What could/should have I said tonight, and what do you all have to say? I know there's an answer, but I can't find it right now, so I'm asking the collective opinions of people who I hope share my own feelings. Thanks, and I'd be happy to answer any/all questions you have of me if it'll help further the discussion.