Great reminder, Torgo! It doesn't help, you're right.
Originally Posted by torgo1968
I, myself, tend to use the "elected autocrats" jab into the chests of folks holding temporary seats of power. That, too, is a stereotype and falsely applies to most of the folks having such responsibility.
Your good point is well taken. Jabbing fingers in chests does far less good than simply pointing out the simple reality and arguments. Good reminder.
Short parables, simple rhetorical questions, pointing out clear examples of failure of our current methods ... all of these can be effective, and they avoid the finger jabbing.
For example ...
Consider Wolves and Sheep. For sheep, bleating about their plight doesn't help. Wolves at the door don't listen to pleas by sheep, who are far better off engaging in one or more worthwhile defensive activities, such as: resisting the attack until the shepherd can arrive; or, quickly exiting the space. Bleating about the plight merely emboldens the wolves.
It doesn't finger point. It doesn't label with distasteful stereotypes. It's fairly unlikely to raise anyone's hackles. It's true at the core and is the central problem that targeted people face.
Good reminder, to all.
Calmly explain or correct someone and you have a chance to change minds (I changed mine!). Tell them they are idiots or shout them down and they will dig in further.
My personal favorite is a simple rhetorical question that I've had in my signature line for a while, now:
How does disarming victims reduce the number of victims?
Any person is going to have a difficult time reading that question and coming away thinking that victim disarmament is a good thing. After a hundred engagements like this, it's entirely likely that a died-in-the-wool control meister will instead come to the realization that the old methods simply don't work well. No finger pointing required.
Another good one, also a rhetorical type "question" to be thought over:
Pavlov was right. The dogs responded to the bell because they knew a treat was coming. Likewise, criminals aren't stupid. They realize that pretty little "Gun Free Zone" signs mean that it's 99.9% likely that only disarmed people exist in this space, that the people are almost certain to be unable to defend themselves. That's bad juju, no matter what color stripes you wear on your sleeve.
Good reminder, Torgo. Thanks.
The only person who has a responsibility to protect you is you. And so, you have two choices in this life: to survive until the cavalry arrives; or, not. Pick one.