FearSheeple

Looking for some advice on carrying while carrying. I've been in the practice of EDC lately, wherever legally possible, so not my office...sadly. But After finally getting things settled on my home purchase i"m looking to start dating again.

my issue is...VA requires you to open carry anywhere that alcohol is served. So this means any restaurant i'd take someone out to...i have to show my gun. Now while I obviously need whoever I'm dating to accept the fact that I will be carrying a gun on my person whenever legal, I think most women would tend to find it LESS freaky if a guy doesn't have a gun on his hip for their first date.

How are others dealing with that? The option is be up front...and when meeting people online most likely that won't result in any follow up date...or not carry? Which based on the stabbing at a GREAT local bar last night...this is not an attractive option.

Thanks!

Shizzlemah

I wager $1 that you could do a "VA tuck" , keep your brain 3 steps ahead of your feet, and she wouldn't notice.

Or, might I suggest dinner at a CCW-approved restraunt, such as McD's? :)

matiki

Stop drinking and don't date anyone that drinks. Duh.





In all seriousness - don't rule someone out because they don't understand or fear guns and don't let them rule you out. My wife was a flaming liberal goth (colored hair, black make up, fish net stockings, combat boots and a skirt, etc) when I met her - I was a high&tight fresh out of the military tight-ass. I thank God we didn't let what seemed to be blaring and un-reproachable conflicts in interests and ideals get in the way. After we got to know each other through several mutual friends it became clear on the things that really mattered we clicked. We've been married 7 years and just had our first child. Over time I have eased up significantly and my wife has become more conservative. The pending arrival of our child marked the first time she admitted that she feels safer knowing there are guns available to defend our home.

If I were you, I'd consider leaving the gun at home until you know what her views are. After you've dated a bit if it turns out she's an anti you can make an assessment as to whether or not she's logical and respects your position as much as she expects you to respect hers.

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ccman

matiki that is some good advice. People click from different worlds. Glad it worked for you. I will keep your advice in mind myself when dating. But in CT I will conceal the little 380.

FearSheeple

I typically don't drink when I am out, if I do I plan ahead and leave it at home, and have someone else drive me. However, places with good food generaly serve alcohol since thats where the money is! :P

But - how right you are on not noticing. i've been out to dinner with friends, who KNOW i have a CCW permit, and carry anywhere I can, and they don't say something til after we're leaving the restaurant that 'wow I didn't even realize you had that thing on you' :) quite amusing.

JD

There's always Cracker Barrel, not quite a place I would take a first date, but they don't serve boos.

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C9H13NO3

The last time I went home on leave, I open carried a whole week before anyone in my family even noticed it. I was even OCing in the house. Wear dark clothing. IWB against a dark shirt, and most people won't notice it.

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ccw9mm

Only if you go to a place with alcohol. There are plenty of alternatives.

I've met several people who found it most freaky to believe there was a rational explanation as to why I thought it was any less safe at this time at the location of this date, as compared to any other. I'm unwilling to bet my/her life that this time's going to be perfectly uneventful. That has been met fairly warmly on several occasions. Depends on the person.

There's your answer, IMO. Anytime ... anywhere. Carry always.

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Anubis

Simultaneously concealing a weapon and informing someone on a first date is a dilemma, if not a logical impossibility, and extra tricky in VA.

I recommend that you always carry it, but it's probably best to keep quiet and not go somewhere you must expose it until after you have discussed the VA-tuck issue with the other person in a developing relationship. I would put your stand on self-defense on the short list of vital issues that must be discussed fairly soon in a new relationship with a serious potential, issues such as views on religion and whether you want children, etc.

Of course I haven't dated in decades---maybe that's all in your modern online dating profiles anyway.

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NCHornet

Pick up a chick at the shooting range!! That way she won't be freaked out, as a matter of fact it will give you something to discuss on the ackward first date!!!

NCH

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