Advice for son please?

Advice for son please?

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    Advice for son please?

    Any words of wisdom on how to change my sons ways. What I am doing is not working.

    Discovered yesterday that my son carries in his coat pocket without a holster. I gave him a Vanguard trigger guard holster that he won’t use. He stated that he doesn’t need a holster since he does not keep the pistol chambered. I told him that is a good way to shoot yourself or someone you care about. He just got pissed off.
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    Looks like he is doubling down on the issue. Get himself shot while he is chambering a round or carrying without a holster. Not listening to his wiser Dad. Strike 3.

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    He can’t shoot if there’s no chambered round.

    Maybe explain that the holster will keep the gun oriented properly for a smooth draw.

    Also, what happens when he takes his coat off?
    Carry a sidearm always. Be able to put shots into the torso and then head, if needed. The rest is much less important.

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    How old is your son?

    At some point all you can say is "I wish you would ________________ " and leave it at that. Don't ruin your relationship, as that won't solve anything either. Then you lose any opportunities, now or in the future.

    Wait a couple of weeks, and then invite him over here (don't tell us) and see if he sticks around.

    Consider attending some training classes together too? Would that be fun? Wait awhile after your most recent conversation too.

    He needs to hear it, and see it, from others.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubblehead751 View Post
    Any words of wisdom on how to change my sons ways. What I am doing is not working.

    Discovered yesterday that my son carries in his coat pocket without a holster. I gave him a Vanguard trigger guard holster that he won’t use. He stated that he doesn’t need a holster since he does not keep the pistol chambered. I told him that is a good way to shoot yourself or someone you care about. He just got pissed off.
    Take his cell phone away and hide it until he comes around. If he's grown and now bigger and stronger than you, disregard the advice.

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    We as fathers only have a short time to influence our sons.
    Do the best you can, do not burn the relationship if it is a good one.
    He is a grown a-- man if he is legal to carry a pistol.
    The consequences are on him now.

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    Maybe take him to the range with the idea of working on concealed carry drills. Maybe that will open his eyes?

    I have some family members who have practices similar to this...far less than ideal, potentially unsafe, and all around a result of laziness and/or ignorance. I just try to lead by example.

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    So how old is he...…….

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    I would imagine older than 21 if he is legally able to carry a handgun.
    I call that old enough to know better.
    My wife will differ in her opinion.
    She says men do not mature till they are at least 30 if ever.

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    Well, our Fatherly advice is not always followed and sometimes you can't force them to listen. He obviously has a fear or misunderstanding of his firearm if he carries unchambered anyway. I would first talk about his logic behind his choice of carry and how unwise/unsafe it is ! I would not give up talking about it.....but I wouldn't hammer him with it either.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KILTED COWBOY View Post
    I would imagine older than 21 if he is legally able to carry a handgun.
    I call that old enough to know better.
    My wife will differ in her opinion.
    She says men do not mature till they are at least 30 if ever.
    ….. and some never do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rock and Glock View Post
    How old is your son?

    At some point all you can say is "I wish you would ________________ " and leave it at that. Don't ruin your relationship, as that won't solve anything either. Then you lose any opportunities, now or in the future.

    Wait a couple of weeks, and then invite him over here (don't tell us) and see if he sticks around.

    Consider attending some training classes together too? Would that be fun? Wait awhile after your most recent conversation too.

    He needs to hear it, and see it, from others.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KILTED COWBOY View Post
    I would imagine older than 21 if he is legally able to carry a handgun.
    I call that old enough to know better.
    My wife will differ in her opinion.
    She says men do not mature till they are at least 30 if ever.
    Not sure about PA but in Alabama you can get your CCW permit at 18 yoa.
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    I've got the opposite. My dad rarely carries and when he does it is unchambered. I've explained the problem carrying that way as much as I can but have had to just drop it.
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